Brett Chukerman: Married to his boyfriend but says he’s not gay

(Note: there’s an update near the bottom of the page about Brett leaving HSN in July 2019.)

File this under:
-The Century of Insanity.
–Subcategory: Going back in the closet with gay shame.

Hola a todos. Not another one. Can someone please remind me as to what the now-dead Gay and Lesbian Rights Movement accomplished over the decades? It seems like damn little was accomplished when you see a gay guy on television who is married to his boyfriend and they bought a house together, but the guy who’s on television says he’s not gay. Sigh. (roll eyes) Loco./Crazy. What happened to “Out and Proud” Brett?

I saw Brett Chukerman the other day on HSN2 as I was channel surfing. I noticed him because my gaydar went off. In the ad I saw on the network for him, he looked like he and his female programme co-host were trying to be a breeder couple. Another gay guy with a female, I wonder? Heteronormative.

He looked familiar to me, but I couldn’t place him. Researching him I see he had done quite a bit of gay porn which — from reading some of HSN’s forum — the female viewers got riled up about when he was hired by HSN years ago. They said Brett hadn’t been properly “vetted” by HSN to have such a “checkered past.” (roll eyes) Doing sex videos is considered a “checkered past?” It is in the minds of conservative prudish (anti-gay?) females. Then on the show he was hosting later on, I saw a large wedding ring on Brett’s left hand “breeder” finger and thought wtf? Another gay guy married to a female here in the Century of Insanity and having gone back in the closet to “Assimilate with the breeders?” (Related: Why gay guys should wear their wedding rings on their right hand.

After a bit more research, Brett was wearing his wedding ring on his right hand fourth finger back in 2016 according to an image I saw of him. My point is that gay marriage in the US is too new historically speaking for most people to even think about gay marriage and or remember that a guy can be married to another guy when they see a wedding ring on his left hand fourth finger. Because traditionally, that’s the finger that “him and her” straight couples wear their wedding rings on. So why would a gay guy want to be mistaken for a breeder/a straight guy? I see someone who is not completely comfortable with his gay sexuality.

I thought to myself: Oh here we go again with yet another gay guy who desperately wants to be an exact clone of the straights. Sigh. Another heteronormative gay guy? Seems so. Running from the word gay? Uh huh. He and all the other closet cases I see on this network with their left-hand wedding rings trying to make the female viewers think they’re straight? People like him make me turn the channel because I see someone who is not fully comfortable with himself as a gay guy and has issues. Sad.

Researching him I found this:


Brett Chuckerman [sic] attended Highland Park High School… I was in the theater department with him. Never saw him engage in any explicitly gay activity, but he was overtly effeminate. He seems to be wearing a “mustache” now because he so badly wants mainstream acceptance, but back in the day it seemed pretty obvious that he was certainly homosexual.

I wasn’t at all surprised to find that he was acting in “gay” movies a handful of years later. I WAS however surprised to hear that he claims not to be gay… lol. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Yes, he is. He and his partner Todd W Anthony have been together a while, and they have a son. They live in Palm Harbor, Florida.

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[Source: Is Brett Chuckerman Gay in Real Life?]

Then I found this bit of information where he and his boyfriend bought property in St Petersburg. But please don’t think they’re gay, for heaven’s sake! They wouldn’t stand for that!

(Related: It already feels like we’re back where we started (circa 1970s) as well as this: The Tombstone on the Grave of the US Gay Community reads:).

Closet cases are fucking annoying to me.

Perhaps Brett would say:

I’m married to my boyfriend and we have a son (translation: I’m married with children and we want to be traditionally heteronormative). I’m not gay. lol. (roll eyes) Please don’t call me that dreaded word “gay.”

I see someone who has some problems with his sexuality. Considering this, it’s odd he started out in gay porn. Sounds like the problems may have cropped up since then. Some people do flip out the moment they become a parent. Parenting changes some people into conservatives prudes overnight. They conveniently forget their own past. I’ve seen that happen. The moment they become a parent, they start whining about the same behaviour they engaged in themselves earlier in their lives when they called themselves “a liberal” or “a progressive” most likely.

Here in the Century of Insanity where “Out and Proud” is now a thing of the past, I guess two gay guys married to each other are now considered a “straight” couple, eh? Isn’t “Gay Assimilation” wonderful? (Related: Gay Assimilation Has Backfired). It’s given some gay guys with their gay shame an excuse to go back in the fucking closet by running from the word gay and living the life of a traditional breeder couple with children. As I’ve asked many times: This is what The Gay and Lesbian Rights Movement fought for for decades, is it? Makes The Movement feel like it was a complete waste of time frankly. (Related: It already feels like we’re back where we started (circa 1970s)).

You know, some gay guys are quite good-looking on the outside but it’s their insides (their personality) that’s quite fucked up and needs work so that it matches their model-polished veneer exterior. I dated a few guys like that over the years, and they were some of the most fucked-up-in-the-head people from a personality standpoint that I’d ever met. A friend of mine met one of these guys when he was with me for a short time. My friend later told me, “He’s good looking.” I said: ‘Well yeah, on the outside. It’s all cosmetic. But we won’t talk about the inside,’ and I knew things would not work out between us because of that. These guys spend all this time on their façade instead of working to make themselves a better, and more well-adjusted person comfortable with themselves and the sexuality they were born with.

To those gay guys who have a boyfriend/partner and a son and say they’re not gay? Someone needs to see a credible psychotherapist ASAP. Of course they won’t do that because they’re quite comfortable with being in the closet and living a lie and in some cases damaging the lives of other people.

As for Brett’s past, he seems to have been comfortable with his gay sexuality in gay porn series. But as he aged and found a boyfriend and got “the house” and “the kid” he seems to now be running from the word gay. Sad really. Chau.—el barrio rosa

Update: After I wrote this article, I saw a picture of Brett from HSN. In that image, he was wearing his wedding ring on his right hand fourth finger back in 2016. Yet here in 2019, he’s wearing his wedding ring on his left hand fourth finger (the traditional breeder finger). (Related: Gay Wedding Ring Deception). Why the switch? Well, I think we can all guess why. I presume he prefers to be seen as straight and with a wife — even though he lives with his boyfriend — or to give that impression to the HSN viewers that he’s a heteronormative breeder. Also, to be the ultimate heteronormative and to be as identical to the breeders as possible, I saw a picture of Brett reading a book to his — apparently adopted — little son but his boyfriend was not shown in the picture nor was any female (also known as “the wife” which might have been shown to give the impression he’s married to a woman). The need to have children goes right along with the traditional conservative institution of marriage. It’s part of society’s Breeder Brainwashing, which many gay couples have adopted as well as they ultimately conform to be as much like the breeders as possible. I never knew that was one of the goals of our then proudly-radical movement. I thought we had higher standards than adopting and conforming to traditionally-conservative institutions. Ugh.

Second Update: I saw on HSN’s FB page an announcement that said that Brett’s son, Jack, was born “yesterday afternoon” (back in December of 2013). It didn’t say that Brett and his partner’s son was born. If it were a breeder couple it would have said, “He and his wife welcomed their new son…” Or, “his wife delivered a healthy baby boy yesterday afternoon.” I don’t know who is being more closet-case, Brett and his boyfriend or HSN? Instead it said, from their page: “Welcome Jack and congratulations Brett Chukerman and family! Here he is!! Our adorable son Jack was born yesterday afternoon and is an angel! Everyone is healthy and we are thrilled!” “Everyone” is healthy? Who exactly is “everyone?” And who exactly is “Our” as in “Our adorable son…?” Don’t you just love the closeted code language. Nothing about “the mother”/(surrogate mother?) or any female. Looks like he and his boyfriend (Todd) have expanded their family since then
based on this image. Give it time to load, por favor/please.

Then, at least to me, in this cheek-to-cheek image with Trish, he tries to give the HSN viewers the distinct impression that he’s a breeder/straight by saying, “Can you tell I just adore Trish?” Well who is this Trish? Maybe that’s HSN’s make-up artist. Could be. That must be it. Something very innocent of course. I do know she’s not a show host because she’s not on the list unless they haven’t updated it lately. And does Todd know about this Trish? (Just thought I’d ask).

Brett comes off to me as a very nice guy, or at least that’s his television persona. He’s sometimes humorous to watch in his mannerisms and other times serious. I don’t get the impression that he does much acting as a show host, other than for sales purposes. It would just seem to me that he has “issues.” Or, maybe he’s bi, but then how many guys who are married to another guy are genuinely bi?

Now I’m well aware that many queer guys lie and call themselves “bi” these days when they’re really not bi. They think that saying they’re “bi” makes them more masculine, manly, macho and “straight-acting” than saying they’re gay with the stereotypes that continue to be attached to that word. I speak from experience. They call themselves bi to run from that dreaded word “gay.” Related: Are most bi guys bi? Nevertheless, someone really wants us to think that Brett is straight when you see an image such as this. There are no images of the male show hosts at HSN hanging all over Brett. No, only females. Also see here. Why isn’t his partner standing there posed with Brett instead of her? If it were a breeder couple, that’s the way it would be. The guy with his wife or girlfriend. Or was Todd at home in the closet for the evening? Was he playing “straight boy” that evening?

Mi amigo/My friend said: It’s odd how someone who used to be sort of on the Left or that’s the perception and who used to do gay porn is now very much into traditional conservative institutions such as marriage and having children and being seen around women only. I said: Don’t even try to figure that out. We have both seen how the now-dead so-called “gay community” has become so conservative and the opposite of who and what they were. But isn’t that what today is all about? And there’s no sense of “community” whatsoever.

Brett leaving HSN in July 2019: Someone came to pink barrio the other day by searching “Brett Chukerman leaving HSN.” From my research, Brett and two other HSN show hosts are leaving the network. Brett is leaving HSN in July 2019. Robin Wall and Connie Craig-Carroll also announced on their FB page that they are leaving. It is being speculated by — what I call — (tongue in cheek) the “Gossipy Chatty Cathy’s” (typical gossipy women) on HSN’s website that the three hosts received “pink slips” since the timing is curious rather than coincidental. Some are speculating that the HSN show hosts are going to be moved outside of Philadelphia where QVC is located. Some are concerned about Bobby Ray Carter and Coleen López who have been on HSN forever, and whether they will be moved to QVC. The speculation involves combining the two networks into one since QVC owns HSN through stocks/shareholders. This was a news item awhile back: “QVC owner acquires HSN for $2.1 billion. Liberty Interactive, the media company that owns shopping channel QVC, is expanding its storefront by purchasing all of its rival, the Home Shopping Network. … HSNi shareholders will get 1.65 shares of Series A QVC Group common stock for every share of HSNi.” I won’t speculate with what’s going on with Brett, since I don’t know. And apparently some QVC hosts are leaving or have announced they’re leaving. Brett wrote on his FB page, “To my fantastic followers – I wanted to let you know that I’ll be departing HSN next month. It has been an absolute privilege to be part of your lives over the last 8 years. My time here has been outstanding and I’ve loved interacting with the best customers out there. I’ll be rooting for HSN forever – but now I’ll be a shopper just like each of you.” Whatever he does next, I wish Brett well. Upon reflection, he could always go into the business of selling closets and he should do quite splendidly with that considering all the queers going back in the closet these days from what I and others have observed here in San Francisco — the former Gay Mecca, which has become the Breeder Mecca — despite the conservative merchants over-saturation of Rainbow Flags in San Francisco’s Castro to give the illusion/false impression that this is still a Gay Mecca when it’s not. For their personal business interests they try to deceive people (unknowing tourists) into believing this is still a Gay Mecca — give us your queer money! — when all one has to do is look around a bit and one will see fleets and fleet of black baby strollers and him-tall and her-short (adherents of the Male Patriarchy mentality) straight couples holding hands and making out under Rainbow Flags, acting as if they just met through some app and are possibly cheating on someone and desperate to have sex right there. And recently, as I was standing in Harvey Milk Plaza I saw a guy of one of these straight couples wearing an anti-gay t-shirt that read, “Fuck you, homo.” Rather bold. I wrote about that here. It’s a very different time now and especially in this political climate from the former Gay Mecca decades. San Francisco is nothing like it used to be, which should now delight the conservatives even though they’re walking around with a sour look on their face. They hated on this City for decades and today they finally have what they wanted all those years and they still look unhappy. San Francisco has become quite conservative and very conformist where Milleneals are wearing all-black clothing 365 days a year as if someone died and there’s a year-round memorial or funeral for the person. Now get this: These idiots wear all-black even during heat waves where it’s over 38 degrees Celsius/100 degrees Fahrenheit outside. Absolute Conformity is more important to them than being comfortable. Or do they not having any feelings/nerve endings to detect heat like the average person? I’ve often referred to these Milleneals as lobotomised, but wearing all-black in scorching heat takes lobotomised to another level. Chau.


Here’s a picture of Brett’s boyfriend/partner that he bought the house with where they live (give it time to load).

“Gay and Lesbian Marriage. Instead of wearing wedding bands on their left hands, gay and lesbian couples often choose to wear rings on their right hands instead. Within gay and lesbian communities, the right-handed ring is an instantly recognizable marker of a monogamous relationship, and even marriage within the states that have legalized it.”

7 comments on “Brett Chukerman: Married to his boyfriend but says he’s not gay

  1. Sasha

    Brett introduced his husband and 2 adorable kids on the air yesterday at the end if his final show at HSN. It sounds like he’s moving to New York. I wish them well.

    1. Darleen

      I missed that. Did we find out who Trish is? Was she there? Yesterday must have been confusing to viewers after he ttalked about his wife on the show several times. Now all of a sudden he came out as gay on the air….altho when there was no chance of it effecting sales. Lying is a big thing these days…..everybody’s doing it.

    2. el barrio rosa Post author

      Hola. I wish them well too. But this really does speak to the state of things and that, in part, has been my point. I find it sad and most unfortunate that a gay guy can’t feel that he can be himself, honest with the viewing audience and perhaps honest with HSN — was he halfway in the closet at work? — and come out until he leaves the network. I’ve seen many people (both hosts and guests) on HSN and on The Q that my reliable gaydar told me are gay, yet all of these people pretend to be straight before the cameras. Yes, we queers have accomplished so much, haven’t we? Not really. Some of the people I’m talking about at these corporate networks deliberately talk about their husband or wife of the opposite gender. To make the viewers think they’re straight? Do they even have a husband or wife? Sounds like they’re in the closet too. I remember when one of the regular guests at The Q (he’s a gay guy) was gushing over how beautiful the model’s legs were. WTF? Not something I’ve ever heard a gay guy say I have to admit. Gay guys are not usually into female’s legs and gushing over how beautiful they supposedly are. Then when doing an online search for the name of this guest (who was usually in all-black clothing from head to toe), I found pictures of him with his gay partner of their wedding. Yet on The Q he wears this large wedding ring on his “breeder finger” (left hand fourth finger) and tries to give the impression he’s straight. But his mannerisms and other things about him tell otherwise. On another occasion when they took a call, a female caller told this guest, “I just love your clothing line. I can tell how much you love women.” What a generalisation to make! He said: “That’s such a nice thing for you to say…” and a few other syrupy words to her. He didn’t say: That’s such a nice thing for you to say but to be clear and honest with you and all the viewers I’m gay/queer and I don’t love women because gay guys are not into women — he and the female host could have laughed together at that point — it’s just that I enjoy designing clothes for women, and thank you for your interest in my clothing line. But as a closet case, he couldn’t bring himself to say that. Alleged breeders love to talk about their personal life on the air or drop hints to let the viewers know that they are straight or think that as if there are no queer people in the world, which is really the worldview that both of these corporate networks try to give to their conservative(?)/anti-gay viewers. So here in the Summer of 2019, in the big scheme of things, it feels like little has been accomplished. And how long before the orange international bloviation bully (the current White House occupant) by executive order makes same-gender marriage (also known as gay marriage) illegal? You don’t think that can happen?

      [Disclaimer: I didn't support Obama or Hillary, so no need to drag them out and troll me with them. I'm non-partisan. I don't take part in this silly and juvenile "team" mentality with politics when in reality there's little difference between the two "teams."].

  2. david

    a sad state of affairs when a dude can’t be himself. brett’s not the only closet case on hsn. i can count about 3-4 others i’ve seen with him…..some show hosts and some guests with their l.h. wedding rings. with one of these bros his wedding ring comes and goes. it’s there one show, gone the next show, back the next show. one of these guys is married to one of the models. does brett’s boyfriend have to stay in the closet when they have company parties and get togethers? does brett introduce his boyfriend that he’s married to as “this is my friend” at hsn? or does he never go there? is brett in the closet with the other show hosts????

    remind me that this is 2019 and not 1972 or so which is what it feels like when i read this shit.

  3. joy

    Last year Brett said, on numerous occasions, ” my wife” . This confused me since I read him as gay. I don`t care either way but, honestly people…honesty are not interchangable.

    1. Sarah

      He said that? “My wife?”…..oh please! Who is he trying to kid? I read him as gay too. He seems like a nice chap. Sad he can’t be himself and honest with people.


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