Georg Händel was a queer boy

Hola a todos.  Did closeted Lenny Bernstein have “date nights” with his wife?    What about composer Jean-Baptiste de Lully and his wife?

They were asking those questions here in the Conservatory.   I’d like to ask:  What about all the obvious queer boys (the closet cases) that mi amigo/my friend and I see on U-toob on a daily basis?  U-toob is saturated with Millennial closet cases.  I don’t know what it is about that, other than their having been brainwashed with homophobia/gay shame.  These closeted guys go out of their way to reveal personal information to the audience by mentioning their wife so that the viewer will think that he’s straight — because you know how awful it is to be thought of as queer/gay these days — and he reveals/advertises how many times they’ve bred by the number of children they have.  Often they have at least 4 children because we’ve noticed that with closet cases that over-breeding is intended to prove how hetero/”straight” Mr Closet Case supposedly is, when any seeing person with even the most minimal gaydar can see he’s a queer boy.  He’s sitting there before the camera with his left hand breeder wedding ring doing his best to convince the world that he’s “straight.”  Do these closeted queer boys have a breeder “date night” too with their wife?   Contrast all these homophobic closet cases with Pete Buttigieg.  I know little to nothing about him politically and I’m not hear to talk about politics, but when I see a picture of openly-queer Pete Buttigieg kissing his queer partner on stage after he announced his 2020 presidential candidacy, that brings tears of joy to my eyes (a very rare occurrence these days I have to admit) — I was so pleased to see Pete and Chasten kissing on stage — and seeing all the smiling faces (especially the faces of other guys) around him smiling in approval.  At least not everyone has gone back in the closet, even though that’s the way it feels these days.

As I told the Conservatory students the other day, if most people knew that Georg (Friedrich) Händel was a queer boy I think that would pretty quickly put an end to the annual run of his beaten-to-death oratorio Messiah every holiday season with marathons of Messiah no matter where you look which is usually performed during Advent, which in 2019 begins on 1 December and runs through 24 December.

For this 2019 season, the Conservatory is a “Messiah-free” zone/school.  Instead, the Conservatory Symphony Orchestra and 150-voice Symphony Chorus (they are outstanding and sing with perfect intonation and impeccable diction) is performing Ralph Vaughan Williams’s glorious Hodie as well as two of the suites of The Many Moods of Christmas by Robert Russell Bennett (the late Robert Shaw used those with his superb Atlanta Symphony Orchestra Chorus) and some Anglican carols complete with descants by Phillip Ledger and the late Sir David Willcocks. And they always use soloists from the Symphony Chorus and none of the soloists sound like they’re screaming with heavy-vibrato. Instead, they sing beautifully, musically and artistically.  And they sing on pitch, something that cannot often be said about the big-name soloists-screamers hired from artist management companies.  Why the frequent pitch problems?  You’re not being paid a generous salary to sing (or scream) flat/slightly under the pitch.  Need more ear training, do you?  Contrast that with the superbly-prepared Chorus.  They don’t have pitch problems and they’re not receiving any salary, unfortunately.  Choristers of this caliber should all be paid and paid well, but they’re not paid at all.  (Related:  The Second Class Musicians).

Messiah is rarely performed during Navidad/Christmas since that season doesn’t begin until 25 December for the twelve days. Unless it’s a prerecorded television broadcast, from what I’ve noticed Messiah is rarely performed during the Twelve Days of Christmas, which is when you would think it would be performed, no? But many of the sheeple and the corporate media in the US — unless they’re Anglican/Episcopalian, (Roman) Catholic or Lutheran and or come from that background — consider Navidad/Christmas to pretty much be over on the 26th of December, when really Christmas is just beginning on the 26th in the Liturgical Year. Holiday shopping trees come down shortly after Navidad/Christmas Day.  I remember as a child that the corporate television networks had their wall-to-wall blow-out of holiday programming on 24 and 25 December and it was rare to see anymore after that.  What I looked forward to was from WGBH-Boston and the Boston Pops Orchestra and the Tanglewood Festival Chorus performing from Symphony Hall.  Unfortunately, the holiday performances from the Kennedy Center were never recorded for broadcast, such as those by Norman Scribner’s Choral Arts Society of Washington (CASW) with members of the National Symphony Orchestra (NSO).  Over the years, the CASW as well as the Oratorio Society of Washington (OSW) and the University of Maryland Chorus performed Messiah as the guest Chorus of the NSO.  I remember the OSW/NSO performance with Margaret Hillis conducting.  That was wonderful; I remember that to this day.  We’d never heard Messiah like that before.  The Maryland Chorus also performed a unique interpretation of Händel’s Messiah when Dr Traver was conducting the performance where the Chorus added Baroque ornamentation to the choral writing.  After hearing their performance, I couldn’t imagine it being performed any other way!  But if Traver was not conducting the performance, the University of Maryland Chorus was required to perform the “boring” version, meaning the way everybody else does it and have heard it umpteen times.  The Maryland Chorus also did their own thing for the holidays.  They performed an annual Midnight Candlelight Concert every 1 December (Advent) in the chapel on the UMD campus in College Park.  The season I sang with them the chapel was packed at midnight for our performance.  And how many people have sung the carol “The Twelve Days of Christmas” and had no idea what they were singing about? I suspect many, if not most, people. Or when they sang that carol, were they thinking that the twelve days meant sometime during what is really Advent?  The Twelve Days of Christmas run from 25 December to 5 January, for those who don’t know.  People like most Southern Baptist. (roll eyes). Don’t let get me started on them. From my experience, most churches of the bigoted Southern Baptist Convention do not follow or even know about The Liturgical Year.  “The what?,” they’d ask.  I can hear someone say “Oh, that’s why my neighbours have their Holiday Shopping Tree up and their holiday lights on until January 5th. That makes sense now. I thought they were just being lazy by not taking them down.” No, they’re not just being lazy.  Although the Russian Orthodox celebrate Christmas on 7 January. They have a different liturgical calendar.  And these days, some people put up their holiday decorations on or immediately after El día de Acción de Gracias/Thanksgiving Day (in the US) which is not even Advent.  It’s still Pentecost.

I can hear some readers say, “Oh stop it, Händel was not gay! I don’t believe that! The composer of my favourite piece, Messiah, that I go to hear every December couldn’t possibly have been gay.” And why is that, Mr and Ms Bigot? Is that because you want to believe Händel was straight? The next words out of their mouth would be the predictable, “Now don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I have anything against gay people, but…” Oh good heavens no, no one would ever accuse you of having anything against gay people, mi amor. [sarcasm intended]. I think just by your saying “It’s not that I have anything against gay people…” that you’ve already made yourself abundantly clear where you stand and that you indeed do have something against gay people — similar to some racist people saying, “I’m not racist, but…” — so save that drivel for someone who will believe you, por favor.

But yes, Händel along with Lully, Corelli, Britten and his partner (tenor) Peter Pears, Tchaikovsky, Camille Saint-Saëns, Lou Harrison, Ethel Smyth, Francis Poulenc, Samuel Barber and his partner of almost 30 years Gian Carlo Menotti (they met at the Curtis Institute of Music), Ludwig Beethoven, and closeted Lenny Bernstein were queer. Lenny married a female to hide his queer sexual orientation from conservative orchestral boards. That sounds like today doesn’t it?  Where some queer boys are marrying females — after gay marriage became legal in the US — to hide their queer sexual orientation.  Yes, it’s exactly like some queer boys in San Francisco and elsewhere have done and are doing. We’ve made so much progress haven’t we? [sarcasm intended].  One works years for gay marriage and when that’s accomplished what does one do? One marries a female, something one could have done from the beginning without working years for gay marriage.  Insanity.  That makes a hell of a lot of sense, doesn’t it?!  But yes, Lenny and his wife had children. Was that intended as additional “proof” to orchestral management that he was straight? That’s what many closeted gay guys married to females are doing today and have done for generations. They go overboard on breeding.  As I wrote earlier, supposedly over-breeding is intended to prove just how “straight” the guy allegedly is to the world and how much of a “real man” he is.  But some of us are not at all convinced. We find people like that very transparent. They have up to 4-5 children or more. Here’s one example of that:  The queer Latter Day Saints guy with 4 children who divorced his wife after coming out of the closet.  Mi amigo/My friend and I have seen this over-breeding with many closet cases married to females.  Also, I’ve noticed that closet cases love to speak about “My wife and I” — to let us all know that he’s supposedly straight, not that any of us care! — and “our date night.”  Which led me to wonder:  Do queer couples have “date nights?”  Not that I’ve ever heard of.  Upon reflection, since queer couples are not living a lie about their sexuality maybe they don’t need a “date night” to “reaffirm their commitment to their relationship.”  Or are “date nights” mainly a breeder thing, and suggested for troubled relationships?  I did read that “date nights” are part of breeder “couples counseling.”  One article asked:  “Can Date Nights Save a Marriage?  A new study says couples who have a night out together once a month are less likely to break up.” Are date nights particularly for closet cases desperate to stay in their hetero relationship, even though he’s queer and knows he’s queer?  But to please his family and because of his gay shame, he continues to live a lie and pretends to be straight and is quite miserable in his hetero relationship.  This reminds me of this closet case (according to my very reliable gaydar) I saw on television who’s living outside the US with his wife from the new country he’s living in.  A marriage of convenience so that he can live and work in that country?  I saw his left-hand breeder wedding ring but I saw a queer boy in him immediately.  On his “social media” comments, nearly all of his writings were about his job and images were about booze and pictures of booze bottles (he loves whiskey), booze that co-workers had given him because “they know me well,” and several mentions of “my wife” — and their “date night” — and their anniversary, and how he needs a certain piece of music “to get through the day.”   I came away with the sense that this guy is quite depressed and even an alcoholic.  And living in the closet will do that to a person.  This guy seems to be drowning himself in alcohol to dull the pain regardless of the smiling front he puts on when standing with his wife before the camera.  No wonder our world is so messed up when you have people like this being dishonest with themselves and with others so that they adhere to society’s brainwashed Straight Agenda Family Script.

Other queer musicians include Wendy Carlos, Nico Muhly, Franz Schubert, Michael Tippett, Aaron Copland, and many others were queer (including one or two females).  Not that most of them were out of the closet.  Jean-Baptiste de Lully was another musician in the closet with his wife and 3 children. Another example of over-breeding to prove one is straight?

So for the conservatives who often say, “there are very few gay people in the world,” — they wish that were the case — they are (as usual) completely wrong.  Most gay guys/queers worldwide are in the closet and living a lie, and many are living with wives and have children, to get their family members to stop nagging them about, “When are you getting married to a nice girl and having a family?”   “Butt-out” is what I’d tell them; I’m not allowing your Family Script to ruin my life.  Do we understand each other?

I can now hear someone say, “Well! I have no intention of going to get my annual fix of Messiah this holiday season. It crushes me to know that the composer of my favourite oratorio was queer. I just can’t support that so I won’t be going to any more Messiah performances.” Well I’m sure everyone will be utterly distraught to hear that mi amor. It will grieve them to know that Mr and Ms Bigot’s presence will not be felt in the audience for the annual performance of one of the most over-performed oratorios ever written.  And, like a bunch of sheeple, does one engage in that ridiculous tradition of standing for the Hallelujah Chorus? I. Suspect. One. Does. The late dean of choral music Robert Shaw — of the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra and Chorus — couldn’t stand that standing tradition for the Hallelujah Chorus. Neither can I. It looks ridiculous. A bunch of sheeple standing on cue because of some silly tradition.  People having to stand because — as the story goes — the King of the British Royal Family stood at that particular time in the performance of the oratorio.  Do these people do anything else that that King did?  No, so why do that?  Fortunately, they don’t stand for the Hallelujah Chorus in the EU from the few performances I’ve seen of Messiah. Maybe that’s just a sheeple US thing. Stupid people with their silly traditions.  (Related:  Not Messiah Again?!)

Unfortunately, aside from the annual Messiah performances, there’s not much interest in oratorios these days it seems from what I’ve observed, at least in the US. Even Mendelssohn’s once-popular Elias/Elijah seems to have disappeared from the repertoire of Orchestra Choruses. Well, it’s really disappeared from the repertoire of orchestras because their Chorus cannot perform a piece that the Orchestra is not performing unless the Chorus does its own thing and has its own subscription series of concerts.  From my research, most orchestras in the US are avoiding symphonic choral works.  Sad.  Today, it’s all about The Big Three.  The three symphonic choral works that have survived the cuts.  Although as I previously wrote, the Boston Symphony Orchestra and the Tanglewood Festival Chorus (TFC) have the most interesting symphonic choral season for 2019-20 of the ones that I saw.  Is that perhaps because of superb James Burton’s influence as the (newish) Chorus Director for the improved Tanglewood Festival Chorus?  Well, technically Burton’s title is Conductor of the TFC, and BSO Choral Director.

So, will you go hear one of the other Big Three: Beethoven’s Ninth instead? If so, you’ll be pleased to know that Ludwig was queer too.  So that’s two that you can cross off your list!  Yes, two of  The Big Three composers were queer. Aren’t you delighted to learn this mi amor? Carl Orff (Carmina Burana, one of The Big Three) may have been a queer boy too, but I’ve not found anything about him.

While researching for this article, I noticed that oddly — although I guess I should expect it at this point in time in this increasingly insane world — it seems that the words “sexual orientation” have been replaced with the word “identity” and “I identify as [queer, gay, bi, straight].”  Strange. The words “sexual orientation” served us well for decades, but apparently some nut had to change that too. Might that have been the busy-body revisionist history Brand “LGBT” Cult again? They seem to have to change things just to change them. No rational or credible reason ever given for it. Who came up with this “identity” and “I identify (as queer)” shit anyway? If I had to take an intelligent guess, I suspect it was the same idiots that came up with corporatist and conformist Brand LGBTTM revisionist history acronym. (Related: Lea Delaria doesn’t do that alphabet soup LGBTQ thing. Does she hit the wall too?)

I liked what one of my commenters wrote recently.  She said:

“Just wanted to toss this one out there: I’ve decided that, if I need to use alphabet soup (which I rarely ever do), I’m using “TGBQL” – in order of most often to least often attacked, abused, murdered, legislated against, etc…”

Oh I like that.  Think I’ll use it along with the explanation on the rare occasion I use anything other than queer or gay.

I recently watched a very enjoyable performance from Frankfurt, Deutschland. It was a performance of the Maurice Ravel Piano Concerto in G.  One of my favourite pieces. A piano major here in the Conservatory is working on the concerto for the annual Student Soloist Competition and reminded me that, like many composers, Maurice was queer, and that I should point that out in this article. Good idea. Someone will say, “What does Ravel being queer have to do with anything? Why did you have to bring that up?” (They always ask that). Well dear, does it bother you that I brought that up? If so, I would suggest you check yourself, look inward as to why you were bothered by that because that’s your problem. If I had said Maurice was straight, you wouldn’t have gotten bent out of shape over that, would you? I suspect not. Because then you would say, “It’s good that he was straight and ‘normal.'” Whatever “normal” means, mind you. Upon reflection, maybe “normal” means boring. But anyway, what we’re dealing with here is one’s internalised homophobia by one’s reaction to my saying that Maurice was a queer boy.  Because if I hadn’t pointed out that he was queer wouldn’t you automatically assume that he was straight? Of course you would. That’s because everyone is assumed to be straight — until proven otherwise — in our Straight Agenda heteronormative society, except for those people with keen gaydar, such as myself and some others.

And por favor, please save the predictable “I have nothing against gay people” pabulum response for somebody who will believe you. Do we understand each other, mi amor? So you prefer that everyone assume that Maurice Ravel was straight, which is what people would do? Well let me touch on that a moment:

What sparked this article about queer composers, in part, was a 4-month old discussion I saw online having to do with queer classical music composers. In those comments no one thought to say the following:

Contrary to what the homophobic conservatives like to say — and who like to keep one’s sexual orientation hush-hush and closeted unless of course the person is straight or perceived to be, even if the guy is a closet case — one’s sexuality is as much a part of the person and one’s artistry as anything else about the person. It’s part of who the person is. And the breeders/heteros never hesitate to remind us about the straight artists with “the wife and kids” even when he’s a closet case which the breeders are too dense to pick up on. Apparently they possess no gaydar at all. And because we live in an extremely heteronormative society with its Straight Agenda brainwashing where images of “him and her” in various poses are constantly shoved in our faces 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with the Straight Agenda brainwashing1 where “everyone” is automatically assumed to be straight. I wanted to point out that Maurice (Ravel) wasn’t part of society’s heteronormative Straight-Breeder Agenda. He was a queer boy and he wrote some beautiful music including his Piano Concerto in G, which is a rather unique piece with its jazz influences. Also, someone in the comments did point out that young people/young musicians today need queer role models rather than assuming that all classical composers were/are straight when they weren’t and aren’t.

Queer boy Georg Händel loved writing oratorios. It seemed to be a major hobby for the boy. He seemed to be fascinated with that style of writing having written approximately 27 of them (oratorios). And oratorios are rather lengthy symphonic choral works.  I don’t know that the public has the attention span for oratorios these days.  Georg was extremely talented boy and wrote some beautiful music, but one would think that he only wrote one oratorio in his life and that’s Messiah.

As of this writing, we are approaching the season where there’s an over-saturation of Messiah performances. It’s much easier to ask, “Who is not doing Messiah than to ask “Who is doing Messiah?”  If I remember correctly, the TFC is not doing it.  Good for them.

I suspect if George were to come back to life he would say, “What is wrong with you people? You’re doing my oratorio, Messiah, every year in December? Are you not aware that only one part of it is about the birth of Jesús. Why don’t you perform some of my other oratorios? Why do you think I wrote them? To collect dust? You people beat everything, you know! You get hooked on one thing and just obsess on it. Every year in December like clockwork you drag out my Messiah. What is wrong with you people?” (You go, Georg, you tell ’em! I’m right there with you.) Well Georg, these days it’s all about the dinero/the money. And (greedy) orchestral management and choral ensembles understand that to make dinero they have to give endless performance of Messiah to “pack ’em in.” That’s mostly what they do; the sheeple flock to get their annual fix of Messiah. And it doesn’t necessarily have to be a good performance either since much of the public has no critical ear for music and can’t tell the difference between your average Church Choir and a superbly prepared Symphony Chorus.

The conservatives cringe when one or more of their favourite composers, conductors or other musicians are said to be queer2.  In their homophobic mind, they ask, “Why did you have to bring that up?”  And why not bring it up?   They never hesitate to tell us all about the breeder musicians with “the wife and kids” whom they worship, glorify and adore. Of course thousands of gay closet cases worldwide have “the wife and kids” — something these thick-minded bigots of the classical music audience are either willfully-ignorant of or have never considered — so living a “straight life” means absolutely nothing other than the gay guy is living a lie by living in the closet — and too often he’s going overboard on breeding and pumping out as many babies as possible to convince others that he is indeed straight (when he’s not) — and again for the thick people who need repetition, there are thousands of closet cases living with “the wife and kids” around the world as I touched on in this article. But the conservatives’ anti-queer prejudice and bigotry is duly noted. I hope that explains this for you along with the following supported links (which I suspect the conservatives will not click on):

Related: Source: One in 10 middle-aged closeted gay men have had vaginal sex in the past three months, according to German study

The queer Latter Day Saints guy with 4 children who divorced his wife after coming out of the closet.

Mi amigo/my friend and I mainly watch performances from the EU. Many times mi amigo has said about the conductor, “Now that’s a queer boy.  Look at his conducting style and queer hand gestures and body movements and facial expressions.” I usually agree with him. Then we look and see a wedding ring on his left hand fourth finger (the Straight Agenda breeder finger). Up until recently, I would do a bit of research on the conductor and find text such as, “He lives in [name of country] with his wife and children.” Oh yes but course. Yet another musician in the closet, according to our extremely reliable gaydar. The same conductors can be seen giving their flowers away to only the female musicians, so as to not give any appearance that the conductor is queer, as I wrote about in this article. Even in countries where same-gender/gay marriage is now legal, the closet cases remain in the closet often as “him and her.”

One wonders: If during a performance, the queer musicians of the Orchestra and Symphony Chorus were asked to stand (including the closet cases), you’d likely hear this loud gasp from the audience. It would be a gasp of shock and disbelief followed by, “I had no idea. I thought they were all straight or I wanted to believe they were.” And why would one want to believe they were all straight, Mr and Ms Anti-Queer Bigot? Some in the audience would probably get up and leave saying they would boycott these musicians until they, “get rid of the gays. I’m going to support another Orchestra.” Well, you’re likely to find “the gays” no matter where you go, Mr and Ms Bigot, because queer people can be found throughout The Performing Arts.

And if you were comfortable and secure with your own sexuality, you wouldn’t hold those anti-queer bigoted views. So go check yourself. Do we understand each other?

The straight people I know in San Francisco who are secure with themselves and their own sexuality treat queers no differently than they treat the breeders. In other words, they’re not anti-queer/anti-gay.

The classical music audience and those who follow(ed) organist Diane Bish are a similar audience, even though she’s more in the (fundamentalist) Church Music category but much of her organ repertoire on her programme, The Joy of Music, was from the classical repertoire and of the French organ repertoire specifically. To this day, people continue to click on my article about Diane. I hope she’s doing well. They’re desperate to know if Diane is married — they mean to a man of course — and more juicy tidbits about Diane. Ever thought of holding a press conference to tell your audience all about your life, Diane? Or maybe do a new JoM programme about it. They’re desperate to know all about you. Gossipy women? They come here by searching: “Is Diane Bish a millionaire? Is Diane Bish wealthy?” Frankly I’d never thought about it but, no, I suspect Diane is not wealthy. She certainly doesn’t act like she’s wealthy. It wasn’t cheap to produce her excellent programme. She’s very down-to-Earth and never arrogant. Most musicians aren’t wealthy. Most musicians are just scraping by to tell you the truth, except for some concert artists, major orchestral musicians and Conservatory and University School of Music musicians with their salaries.  But Diane Bish is quite a hot item here on pink barrio. To my knowledge, Diane lives with her partner (harpist) Susann McDonald. I think they live in Indiana. On a forum for organists, some homophobe said that Diane and Susann probably live in opposite ends of the house. Why would he want them to live in opposite ends of the house? In his warped and bigoted mind, they had to be straight women and not lesbians. Oh yes I’m sure and they never see each other, no? They only communicate by e-mail? They never have any contact? Except when Diane accompanies Susann for a harp and organ duet?  Well, with that anti-queer bigot — a closet case himself possibly?… since that’s usually how closet cases behave — he didn’t want Diane and Susann to be seen as a lesbian couple. That’s assuming they are. So, he put them in opposite ends of the house in his anti-queer scenario/Straight Agenda mentality. I guess Diane and Susann only see each other on the odd occasion — do they meet in the middle of the house? — to play duets (organ and harp)? Diane had Susann on The Joy of Music a few times. Whenever anyone raises the topic of Diane’s sexual orientation, the anti-queer conservative basura get all riled up and pompously ask their usual tiresome question. They want everyone to assume that Diane is straight with a husband like “all other musicians” and everyone else in their heteronormative Straight Agenda world with its thousands of closet cases (many living with wives and children) living a lie with gay shame.

When I was in the San Francisco Symphony Chorus, a large group of the tenors and basses were queer — the same may have been true for the sopranos and altos but I didn’t pay much attention to them other than to hear their glorious singing with the Full Chorus — and the Chorus Director was/is queer and so was the Chorus Secretary (Greg, a super nice guy, who ran the Chorus). It was really a good group of people. Very nice people. And I really liked Vance George, the Chorus Director who followed Margaret Hillis.  She was Founder and Director of the Chicago Symphony Chorus and SFS Chorus interim Chorus Director. I think it’s fair to say that Margaret Hillis and Robert Shaw were the most familiar Choral Directors of US choral music excellence at that time, the co-deans of choral music.  I made some nice friends and we all shared the same interest of choral excellence as the Official Chorus of the San Francisco Symphony. Unfortunately I never see any of them anymore. Of course the San Francisco Symphony Chorus is still around, but that particular Chorus that I was in is gone. All we have of it are the memories. I suspect most of them have moved away as San Francisco changed, unfortunately (some longtime SF residents say, “This New City sucks.”) Some of us had other jobs in music at the time. Some of the Men of the Symphony Chorus were also in the Grace Cathedral Choir of Men and Boys (Anglican Communion). Musicians of that high caliber are very much in demand and are paid.

With few exceptions, I think that the classical music audience is quite a conservative, bigoted audience when it comes to its queer musicians (keep it “hush-hush”), whom the audience wants to think of as straight.  Yet they never want to keep heterosexuality “hush-hush.”

One wonders what percentage of the classical music audience consists of closet cases themselves? They usually come to performances as “Him and Her” and refer to themselves as “Mr and Mrs” — rather than Mr and Ms — where apparently the woman wants wants to be seen as property of the man by taking his surname per society’s brainwashed Straight Agenda. With the use of Mr, one does not know if the guy is married or not. The same is true for the use of Ms.

The Arts are full of queers yet this audience wants to live in denial of that. What does their denial accomplish? Well, it certainly gives them a very unrealistic picture of musicians (and everybody else in society). And one’s denial is not about to change a musician’s (queer) sexual orientation.

Talking with the students of the Conservatory’s Queer Alliance, some of us began to reflect on the life of Händel and tried to compare it to today. I wonder if it was anything like this in Georg Händel’s day? In his generation, did he feel the frustrations that I feel today with my fellow queers? I’ve asked what a former queer New York City blogger asked several years ago: “What has happened to my fellow queers?” Well, I and some others know what’s happened to them. And I don’t really feel like writing another book about that for the umpteenth time. I’ve written about it so many times I feel like that’s all I ever talk about. But for first time readers who have read none of that, here’s a brief summary: Since gay marriage became legal in the non-United States, it seems like most queers have gone back in the closet, some are even living in relationships with females pretending to be straight. It’s their way of “assimilating with the straights” after some nuts gave the dictate for queers to “assimilate” following gay marriage becoming legal. Yes, they worked years for gay marriage and then in the end what are some queers doing? Marrying females. A script writer couldn’t make this shit up. But we are living in the Century of Insanity. In other words, “gay assimilation” has completely backfired as some of us predicted it would. Our Movement was hijacked by corporatists and lesbians. And queer activism is dead today. The movement is over. Fin. The End. It ended with the celebration of gay marriage becoming legal in the US. And since then, most queers don’t seem to care about anything. Today, I think most queer rights including gay marriage could be wiped out and most would say, “I’m like whatever.” In other words, most couldn’t care less as long as they have their phone, meth, PrEP and partying. During Händel’s day, most queers were — like they are today — in the closet. So that was the “norm” of the day. But I’m coming from a place where I lived in San Francisco’s former Gay Mecca where being in the closet was NOT the norm, so it makes me very sad, disgusted and frustrated to see the state of things today. It’s as if things have gone back to the way they were before the Movement began in many ways. Queers have gone from “Out and Proud” to back in the closet and heteronormative. Many seem desperate to be just like the breeders/straights, just because queers have the right to get married and to be allegedly open about their queer sexuality (one wonders how’s that really going?) in the imperialistic US Military Industrial Complex killing machine to go kill other queers and breeders around the world. (Related: Why do Queers want to kill other Queers?)

Then there’s also the queer marriage wedding ring mess, something the Händel boy and other musicians didn’t have in their day.  Take, for example, US Democratic Party presidential candidate Pete Buttigieg. He is openly queer and married to his partner/boyfriend. But some people I’ve spoken with thought he was married to a woman even though they knew he was openly queer or had heard that about him. When I first saw him I thought the same thing because of the hand he wears his wedding ring on.  Why did I/they think he was married to a woman? Because he wears his wedding ring on his left hand breeder finger. And because of heternormative tradition for generations, whenever I see a man wearing a wedding ban on his left hand fourth finger I assume him to be married to a woman. Or, I now question that and ask:  Is he a queer boy trying to “look straight,” or is he a closet case?  Gay marriage is too new historically speaking for most people to even remember that queers can get married now. I know of Pete vaguely and I thought I saw him the other night but I wasn’t sure and it was because I saw his wedding ring on the wrong hand. If he wore his wedding ring as a married queer boy on his right hand I wouldn’t have been confused at all.

(Related: Why gay guys should wear their wedding rings on their right hand and Gay Wedding Ring Deception and Queer Couples: Wear your wedding rings on your right hand fourth finger).

The image above is that of a married gay male couple wearing their wedding rings on their right hand fourth finger, which removes any doubt or confusion over their sexual orientation. They’re not trying to deceive others into thinking they’re straight by wearing their wedding ring on their left hand — as straight couples do — which is what most people would likely think when the two are not together as a couple. Or even if they were together as a couple, someone could ask: “Where are your wives? I see you’re both wearing wedding rings (on your left hand).” Because traditionally, breeders wear their wedding rings on their left hand fourth finger. And even though queers see their relationships no differently than that of the breeders — and it should be seen as no differently except it’s probably far less dysfunctional than that of a breeder relationship with their high divorce rate (1 in 4 breeder couples get divorced as of 2017) — the fact is many in our bigoted, prejudiced and homophobic society do see queer relationships/marriages differently. Gay marriage is too new historically speaking for most people to even remember that it exists, that it’s now legal in the US, especially when the person opposes gay marriage.

Just add that to the mess that has become the now-dead queer so-called “community” where there’s this long string of alphabet soup letters (The official acronym is now this insane mess: LGBTQQICAPF2K+) to describe every variation of queer human being that exists — whereas straights don’t have any alphabet soup and their sexual interests are nearly as varied as that of queers — and now queers can’t even get the wedding ring thing right.  Sigh.  I mean, who wants to be confused for a breeder (wearing a wedding ring on your left hand fourth finger) if one does not have some gay shame?  And in our bigoted society, your queer relationship will never be equal to a breeder’s relationship in much of the public’s mind.  It’s ridiculous and delusional to think otherwise.  What has happened to my fellow queers reality gauge and bull shit detectors?  Did they go back in the closet too?

I wonder what Georg Händel and other composers would say about queer life today?  “Not much different than in our day,” considering how quickly things are going back to the way they were.  Yeah, that’s what I was thinking Georg.  Chau.—el barrio rosa

About the supporting articles I’m linking to below:

Some of these articles use that revisionist history “LGBT,” acronym as well as the words “identify” and “sexual identity” rather than sexual orientation. Apparently these queers struggle to say the word queer and “I’m queer.” As I said, I don’t know who came up with that “identify(ing)” rubbish but it implies that one can change one’s sexual orientation from day-to-day by how one “identifies.” Rather than just say, “I’m queer” (7 days a week). Why is “I’m queer” or “I’m gay” so difficult to say, people? What is wrong with you that you can’t say that? Some people feel the need to use all new language so that they don’t come off as “1980s” or “1990s.”

15 Queer Composers You Should Know
The 10 Greatest Gay Composers
Queer pitch: is there such a thing?
18 Queer Composers Who Made Music History; Classical music wouldn’t be what it is today without these great gay musicians


Gay Assimilation has backfired

1 Speaking of the constant barrage of Straight Agenda brainwashing, I was researching some dental information online and I went to one of the major brands of toothpaste. They had a page about tooth extractions. Can you guess what the picture was for that page about tooth extractions?  It was a picture of a smiling breeder couple (“him and her”) in bed.  Now can you tell me what that has to do with tooth extractions?  More of that Straight Agenda brainwashing.  Which led me to think that queer couples never have tooth extractions or dental problems. Only straight couples. But the major point I’m making with this is that even with a page about tooth extractions, they had to use the image of a straight couple, and in bed.  A few days later, a clothing company sent me an email and discount coupon featuring “him and her with two children” and him with a left-hand wedding ring.  Judging by corporate ads, there are no queer people in the world today.  None whatsoever!  We’re supposed to buy from corporations that heavily promote breeders and heterosexuality.

2 The reason I use the word queer, in part, is because of Lea DeLaria’s comments about it, which I agree with:
Lea DeLaria Doesn’t Want You Calling Her A Lesbian.  “I am a dyke! Get it right. I don’t do that alphabet soup, LGBTQ thing. By the time you get to all of those letters, the fucking parade is over! Part of me believes that this so-called inclusivity of calling us the LGBTQQTY-whatever-LMNOP tends to stress our differences, and that’s why I refuse to do it. I say queer. Queer is everybody.” [Source]