[UPDATED] Hola. Someone came to pink barrio the other day by searching, “I want to go back in the closet.” I guess there’s not much to say about that other than what I’ve already said in other articles, so this is more of a venting article on my part. We have a lot of fucked up people in our society so that probably explains this. I know from visiting the site I call Closetlist that the dominant word in the “men for men” category sex ads is the word “discreet” no matter what el muchacho is into sexually. The words “discreet” (and the occasional “super discreet”) are epidemic in “men for men” sex ads on ClosetList. One would assume that “discreet” is a required word for any sex ad on that site. Even for JO ads, el muchacho has to be “discreet.” WHY? I’d like to ask these guys: Who cares what you do sexually and with whom that you need to be “discreet” about it? As I’ve said many times before, there’s nothing wrong with one guy having consensual sex with another guy. I thought we were way beyond that hang-up. But that’s what those ads are about, so why is there a need to be “discreet” about it? Discreet is code for “in the closet” or a closet case and ashamed of what you’re doing sexually, or you’re cheating on someone and don’t want the person to find out.
The ironic part about this, “I want to go back in the closet” is the timing of it. This is not the 1970s or 1980s where one might expect to hear or read someone say that they want to go back in the closet (or stay in the closet). Someone typed, “I want to go back in the closet” at this point in time here in 2015 where here in The Cesspool/the US/The Imperialistic Empire same-gender marriage is now legal in all 50 states (even though some county clerks/”officials” refuse to honour the ruling). So a Queer person (it’s probably a guy) waits until same-gender/gay marriage is legal throughout The Cesspool and then he decides that he wants to go back in that unhealthy closet. My suggestion to him: It’s sad that you feel ashamed of who you are and of your sexuality. It’s also sad that you want to live a lie to yourself and others and dishonestly pretend to be a person that you’re not by going back in the closet. There are many credible and well-trained psychotherapists available who could help you deal with your feelings of being ashamed of your Queer sexuality and I’d recommend that you contact some of them to find the best therapist for you.
It’s possible that a very young person typed, “I want to go back in the closet” because they’re being bullied in school and/or elsewhere because of their sexual orientation, and if that’s the case I have empathy for you because most of us have been bullied by bigoted basura in our society and that sucks. It doesn’t feel good at all. And often los muchachos who are anti-gay are gay themselves — they’re closet cases — and they try to hide/disguise their gay sexual orientation by being anti-gay. I usually tell los muchachos like that to go get the dick! LOL.
There’s also another possibility for this, “I want to go back in the closet” desire and I think it’s very real: As more and more “straights” with their baby strollers — they breed like mosquitoes, you know! — barrage their way into former gay areas in major cities (such as The Village in Manhattan, West Hollywood en Los Ángeles County and San Francisco’s Castro, and other areas), I do think that some Queers feel uncomfortable being out of the closet among in-your-face heteronormative “straights” when it feels like they’re taking over our gay areas and “marking their territory” with their heavy telenovela-type make-out scenes on the sidewalks and street corners and their mandatory hand-holding to let everyone know they’re “straight.” And I think that causes some Queers to feel like they’re back where they were in Straightsville years ago before they came out of the closet. And as I wrote in this article, that’s one of the problems I and others see with this assimilation nonsense that the corporate GLBTQ organisations — who serve as self-appointed authorities on all things Queer — and others have so heavily pushed for. As usual, they didn’t think the concept all the way through to see this possible outcome, and that outcome is: Gay guys adopting a heteronormative and a self-hate/anti-gay way of thinking to “fit in” with the “straights.” Yes, heteronormative conservative gay guys have sanitised our gay areas and shut down one thing or event after the other as if ashamed of our GLBTQ history so as to please the precious “straights” — the “straights” have priority over GLBTQs in our barrios do they??? — who feel the need to ramrod their way into the only little area we have that we can call our own. The “straights” own the entire world — but the “straights” are never satisfied, the Assholes — and they want it all. And heteronormative conservative gay guys (they’re usually the bougi, elitist, wealthy homeowners) serve as accomplices in giving it to them and are more than happy to do so. The Assholes! Chau.—el barrio rosa