No dykes in San Francisco. Gay guys marrying lesbians to be “straight” couples. Trans marrying trans to be “straight” couple. Insanity.

Hola a todos. As the Conservatory is about to reopen following the holidays, I thought I’d fill the time with this article.

A San Franciscan wrote a comment on one of my articles and then he sent me a more detailed e-mail. I thought his comment deserved more attention so I’m posting it as this article below with my minor edits. Here’s what he wrote:

I’m a San Francisco resident. I was walking down the street in Upper Market here in January 2020 and I noticed a number of baby strollers on the other side of the street. It’s a common sight in San Francisco these days. As I was watching these baby strollers going by, a bull dyke slightly ahead of me looked back at me and started talking. She said, “It’s impossible to find dykes in San Francisco anymore.” We started talking. She was an interesting person. She was dressed in Old City clothes and her hair style was that of a 1990s to early 2000 look. I told her that what few gay men there are left in San Francisco seemed to have thrown away their gayness and turned straight and started marrying chicks. She said, “Lesbians are doing the same thing.” I was surprised to hear her say that because before I started reading pink barrio I thought I was the only person to notice this back to the closet strangeness and “be straight” life style of what was once an out and proud gay community. She used a word similar to assimilating but she said, “Bull dykes no longer look like dykes, they don’t even ride motorcycles anymore and they’re marrying guys. They’re mostly blond haired now and wear lingerie clothing 24/7 out and about and dance with straight men. You’d never catch me dressing like that or dating a guy” as she spit on the sidewalk in disapproval. She said, “It’s really sad. This used to be such a fun City.” Her last words to me were, “Can you believe all the baby strollers in this City?”

I thought about our chat for awhile after. Many people assume I’m straight for some reason but her gaydar picked up on me right away as gay. Then I thought about what I wish I would have told her that I saw about a month ago in a store here in SF. It was this guy who looked right out of the Eagle Bar, one of the South of Market leather gay men’s bars in the Old City. The guy was probably in his 30s or 40s. He was very handsome, wearing leather short-shorts and a black leather vest and had a trimmed beard. I noticed him because I haven’t seen any guys wearing leather short-shorts in years in SF, since the Old City. He was with a heavy-set blond chick who looked like a lesbian. She was wearing tight white pants and had a big butt. I looked at them for a bit because he looked so gay to me and right out of the Eagle. I used to go to the Eagle. I watched him start rubbing this woman’s arm and she got closer. That’s when things started looking weird. Rather than being a gay guy and a lesbian, they were looking more like they were a couple or maybe just starting their “straight” relationship. I saw a gay guy and a bull dyke type lesbian trying to be straight. I shook my head and walked away. I’d seen enough. I glanced their direction as I went around a corner and they were about to make out in the store. Who knew that gay guys would at some point hook up with lesbians to be straight? You’re not the only one to say it, pink barrio, but we’re living in a really insane world. My coworkers say that every day.

One thing I’ve noticed with your commenters, you have no trans commenters or none who will ever touch this topic. Makes me think that most of them are in the closet too. Thanks.—Derrick

My response: Derrick, as for your last paragraph, I’ve suspected the same for some time. I’ve even heard some trans people say how they can “pass as straight.” Then, last week I saw these two trans people who are essentially a heteronormative straight couple now. (roll eyes). They’re even having a baby to be perfectly heteronormative as “him and her” in an already over-populated world. If they wanted a child, why not adopt a child? There’s no shortage of very loving children waiting to be adopted and one can love an adopted child just as much as a child with one’s own DNA. Why do some (many?) trans females think they have to become breeders? Or is it that they feel they’re not a “complete woman” until they squeeze out a baby? And some say things such as, “Give me my uterus.” Well, what’s the purpose of a uterus? I never knew that deep down so many queers wanted to be “carbon copies” of the dysfunctional breeders. That wasn’t the thinking during our GL Rights Movement. At that time, we looked down on the straights. We didn’t worship them and model our lives after them as is happening today. Loco/Crazy. But I’ve seen other trans “straight” couples just like these such as the Gay Straight Couple. Insanity. I swear, all of those corporate trash at those corporatist queer organisations at the state and national level who ordered queers to “assimilate with the straights” when gay marriage became legal in the US should be fired en masse. What stupid and useless people! Apparently they didn’t think any of this through — no critical thinking skills? — as to its very possible consequences. They are directly responsible for the state of things today. When you tell a minority group to “assimilate” with the majority group what happens? What happens is what has happened. “Assimilate” means to blend in; don’t stick out and take on the characteristics of the majority. How does one “blend in?” By going back in the closet and pretending to be “straight” and part of the majority. Duh. Any damn fool should have seen this coming. At this point, is there much need for gay marriage now? Well I guess it’s useful for the few queer couples who haven’t gone back in the closet and who want to be married. But it serves no purpose whatsoever for the — what appears to be the majority — now insane queers with their deep-rooted gay shame and internalised homophobia who are marrying the opposite gender to live a heterosexual/straight life which they could have done to begin with, years ago. Gay guys didn’t need for gay marriage to become legal so they could marry a female. What fucking idiots! Chau.—el barrio rosa

The Power And Privilege Of ‘Passing’ As Straight: “Why, for a passing moment, did I secretly feel pleased that someone might think I was straight?”

The Gay Straight Couple

Iran: Tehran Symphony Orchestra and Chorus perform Orff and Rachmaninov

UPDATE AND REPOST:  3 January 2020:  Was is it about, “Thou Shalt Not Kill” that the Christian fraud in the White House does not understand?  And the same goes for the Christian frauds around him.  As you may know, the constantly dysfunctional, deranged, septic and barbaric current White House occupant (aka the international bully) unilaterally ordered the killing of Iran’s top general, Qasem Soleimani, without consulting any members of the US Congress.  That’s what dictators do.  Regardless of how one feels about Soleimani — and I have no interest in discussing that — it should be pointed out that the current White House occupant has befriended some of the world’s worst dictators.  He has not ordered their droning/killing while he plays golf, as he ordered the droning to death of Qasem Soleimani.  The current White House occupant — who pretends to be a Christian when it serves his stupid evangelical base — has violated one of the tenets, the Ten Commandments, in the bible that he and the other Christian frauds around him (such as arrogant Pompouspeo, P*nce and others) pretend to believe in, specifically, “Thou Shalt Not Kill.”  What is it about that commandment that these Christian frauds do not understand?  That commandment lists no exceptions.  It does not say, “Thou Shalt Not Kill, except in the case of the US.”  It’s extremely clear in what it says.  I’m merely pointing out the glaring hypocrisy of these fake-Christians who are Christian in name-only.  And if your “all-powerful, omnipotent, all-knowing” god wanted this guy dead, he would have killed him as he does with any other person.  He does not need to rely on some Christian fraud to do his job for him.  Chau.—-el barrio rosa

Hola a todos. At least with thinking people and one who is not prejudiced by someone’s nationality or ethnicity, I think this performance of the Rachmaninov Second (Piano Concerto No. 2 in c minor) by the excellent Tehran Symphony Orchestra and its excellent Iranian guest piano soloist — whose name is not listed, although one or two commenters said his name is Amir Mahyar Moradi, but I can’t confirm that — should put to rest that nationalistic myth that “only Russians can play Rachmaninov.” I’m always annoyed when I read that very outdated rubbish in YT comments. Although I don’t remember ever reading “only Germans can play Bach.” I have read, “leave French music to the French” which is just as ludicrous as the Russian myth. But unfortunately there are some fossils living among us who still hold to that “Dark Ages” nationalistic thinking. I think it’s the same crowd that engage in conductor worshipping and name-dropping of big-name conductors, when in reality the conductor in a performance doesn’t play a note unless he’s (usually it’s a guy) conducting from a keyboard. (Related: Dudamel does it best! No, Bernstein! No, Solti! No, Karajan!)

Some years ago I gave a solo piano recital where I played works of Scarlatti, Poulenc, Herbert Howells, Rachmaninov and one or two other composers. Some people came to me afterwards and asked, “How did you do that? How did you play pieces from composers of different nationalities all on one programme?” I must have had a “What are you talking about?” confused look on my face in response. I didn’t know how to respond to their questions because I had given no thought to it at all! I just wanted a varied programme, but mostly focusing on Rachmaninov and the two sets of his Études-Tableaux. They’re beautiful pieces. I also didn’t want to play what “everybody else plays,” which was some piece by Chopin had to be on any programme. But these people who came to hear me were obviously of a mentality that “only [fill in nationality of pianist] can play music of [his country’s name]. Astounding really that such a nationalistic mentality still exists to this day.

The fact is: Music is the international language and crosses all people-made geographic borders. One does not need to “leave Russian or French music to the Russians or French” when other nationalities can play it just as well if not better. Where one was born or lives has little to do with how well one performs a piece of music. Instead, it has to do with many other factors, such as talent — which cannot be taught — being one of them. Cultural differences do play a part, and the example I often use of that is how Rachmaninov was heavily influenced by Russian Orthodox Church bells, so much so that he wrote a symphonic choral work he titled: “Колокола, Kolokola” (English translation: The Bells).

The Russian School of Piano Playing does have this (undeserved?) reputation for producing “banging” pianists. Well that is a generalisation, because I’ve heard many Russian pianists. Some “bang” at times where others don’t, and it can also depend upon what they’re playing. And “banging” is not limited to Russian pianists. The best performance, in my opinion, of the Rachmaninov Third is not by a Russian pianist but by a Braziliana: Cristina Ortiz who was born in Brazil but has lived most of her life en Londres/in London and who won the Van Cliburn International Piano Competition in 1969 plays a very musical, unique — she plays parts of both cadenzas — and non-banging Rachmaninov Third which you can hear here. Recently, I heard a well-known Russian pianist “bang” his way through the third movement of the Rachmaninov Third. I thought he was going to break some strings. He was even lifting his hands so high above where the music rack would be if he were using his score slapping the keys. Needless theatrics.

By the way, Iran is pronounced “E-rahn,” and not “I ran” the way many culturally-ignorant people in the US pronounce it. I think they learned it wrong from the US corporate media who thoroughly enjoy mispronouncing words of international languages. They seem quite proud and find it funny when they mangle any world language that is not their precious US-English and the only language they speak or often slur through in some cases. The same goes for most US politicians, and other people before network cameras. I remember when Whoopi Goldberg seemed to find it funny when she mangled the pronunciation of Univisión, the major español language network. The woman couldn’t pronounce it. It was obvious she hadn’t prepared and found humour in that. The typical embarrassing USian. They find humour in their willful-ignorance. One of the major complaints that I’ve read repeatedly from los Latinos/Hispanos about the English language corporate media in Los Ángeles, for example, is how those networks enjoy and seem to take great pride in mangling español language words, which deeply disrespects their large Latino, Hispano, mexicano, Chicano (et al) audience.

Iran’s capital city, Tehran, is a beautiful, very modern city with a population of about 9 million people in the City of Tehran and 16 million people in the greater Tehran Metropolitan Area. Related: Tehran, the biggest city in the Middle East with a metro population of around 16 Million, also one of the biggest cities in the world.

Los Ángeles came to my mind while watching the tour of the Tehran video below. Tehran has a very nice and modern Metro (subway system), nicer than some Metros here in the US (it’s nicer than San Francisco’s, although we have received some new and very nice Metro cars lately to replace the ageing cars). Modern Life: 65 New Passenger cars added to Tehran subway system. And Mayor of Belgrade visit Tehran’s modern Metro system. Also: Modern Life (Home Page). Lovely, friendly people live there. I don’t see any homeless people in Tehran so apparently they take care of their people, unlike the US which chooses to treat homeless people like basura while the US pretends to be “A Christian Nation” — yet another myth — because its domestic and international policies as the world bully, world police force and world military are the exact opposite of what we know about the life and teachings of Jesus from learned historians.

I enjoyed these excerpts of the performances from the Tehran Symphony Orchestra and Chorus. In 2015, they performed Beethoven’s Ninth Symphony (“Choral”), just to give one example of their repertoire for Orchestra and Chorus.

The TSO was founded in 1933 and many notable musicians, such as Yehudi Menuhin and Isaac Stern played with the Orchestra in their day.

In the first video below, pianist Amir Mahyar Moradi (presumably) is playing the Rachmaninov Piano Concerto No. 2 in c minor with the Tehran Symphony Orchestra (TSO) in this excerpt of his performance below.

The TSO use the Bösendorfer piano, considered by many to be the finest pianos en el mundo/in the world and even better than the Steinway & Sons pianos (New York or Hamburg). Their Bösendorfer has a beautiful sound. They’re very expensive pianos — handcrafted in Austria — they sell for between US$256,000 and $560,000. For this performance the TSO uses the European seating arrangement with the violins seated on both sides of the orchestra and cellos seated inside the Orchestra.

I read an article from a tourist from los Estados Unidos/the US now living in Tehran who has spent 3 years there. He loves Tehran and spoke about the anti-Tehran lies, disinformation and propaganda constantly fed to the US and world public about Tehran. He said that Tehran is a very safe city without exceptions and the people are very friendly. There’s also very few Western tourists there. He said there’s probably approximately five in the entire country.

Also assisting for their performance (below) of the final chorus from Carl Orff’s symphonic choral cantata, Carmina Burana, was the Tehran Symphony Chorus. They’re quite good. The Orff is in Latin, so the Chorus Director (unfortunately I don’t know his or her name to acknowledge him or her) must have brought in a language coach — as credible Orchestra Chorus Directors usually do — for the training of the text/diction. Their diction was clear. The languages of Iran are (and note that Latin is not one of them):

Persian: 53% of the population
Azerbaijani and other Turkic dialects: 18%
Kurdish: 10%
Gilaki and Mazandarani: 7%
Luri: 6%
Arabic: 2%
Balochi: 2%
Other languages: comprise 1%, and they include Tati, Talysh, Georgian, Armenian, Circassian, Assyrian, Hebrew, and others.

Yet many people born in the US struggle to speak just one language (US-English) correctly. Pathetic really, while they hallucinate about their supposed “greatest country” myth and other US-nationalistic ugliness promoted by corporate parasitic politicians from both partisan cults, dutifully supported in lockstep by their partisan-brainwashed disciples.

I used the title for this article because I wanted to credit the Tehran Symphony Chorus, even though they don’t perform in the Rachmaninov Piano Concerto No. 2 in c minor, of course. And since someone usually asks, yes, I played the Rachmaninov Second — which I learned on my own during Summer breaks from the Conservatory — although unfortunately I never played it with an Orchestra. I would love to have done that. Well isn’t that one of the main reasons why we musicians learn concerti so that we can perform with an Orchestra? I think so. I played it with one of my piano professors at the Conservatory (two pianos, he played the secondo). But that’s not the same experience as with an Orchestra. For those who don’t know, concerto opportunities are indeed rare unless one is a concertising artist with artist management (which I’m not). Generally speaking, concerto opportunities — for those without artist management — diminish the older one gets, with the cut-off point being around age 30, I think. Orchestras often like to feature young “Rising Star” artists to “wow the audience” or (what I call) the latest “fad artist.” Concertising sounds glamorous to some, but after some time doing it, many concert artist find it very unappealing, and even come to dread having to get on a plane and jet off to some location to perform dealing with time zone differences and jet lag, lack of sleep and not in one’s own bed at home. They mainly do it for the dinero/money, I think at that point. Chau.—el barrio rosa

Related:

Asked to ban female musicians, Tehran Symphony Orchestra cancels performance:
“The authorities had pointed out that the female performers were not wearing appropriate hijab (head covering)…The women musicians were going to perform the country’s national anthem. Why shouldn’t they? I have said many times that I was born in this country and I know very well where the red lines are. As long as I’m the director of this orchestra, I will not allow this kind of treatment,” he [the orchestra’s artistic director Ali Rahbari] added.

Iran defends the execution of LGBT queer people.
The same goes for the strong US ally sacrosanct Saudi Arabia. For your search engine: 27 April 2019: “Five men beheaded by Saudi Arabia were gay according to ‘confessions extracted under torture’.
Lovely company the US keeps. Also, speaking of Saudi Arabia:

20 June 2019: So unlike them and surprisingly, the ultra-conservative US Senate passed 22 measures aimed at blocking White House plans for $8.1 billion in military sales to Saudi Arabia and the United Arab Emirates, setting up a veto showdown with the current White House resident.
Now let’s be honest: Wouldn’t he just prefer to dissolve Congress — the House and Senate — and get on with his true intentions and agenda? I should think so.

Gay & Lesbian Travellers to Iran
“Barbaric laws aside, there is no reason why gay and lesbian travellers shouldn’t visit Iran. There are no questions of sexuality on visa application forms. Do, however, refrain from overt acts of affection.”

Here’s the Tehran Symphony Orchestra and Chorus in the final movement of the Orff:

In this video, notice the modern traffic signals that let motorists know how many seconds remain before the light changes, for both red and green lights. We don’t have that in San Francisco and I’ve not seen that anywhere in the US, the so-called “greatest country.” (LOL, oh how we do so love to pump ourselves up to try to make ourselves feel superior to other genuinely great countries around the world).

I enjoyed this video recorded on their Metro (their Metro is well used which is good to see), although I would have preferred different music more authentic to the region:

A nice segment about the Metro and about the Persian food in this video. Someone was having jugo de zanahoria/carrot juice, like I make most days. Now that’s real food as opposed to coffee — nothing nutritious about that — that the typical USian would likely be ordering. Those stuffed bell peppers look good to me. Are they vegetarian?

Assuming Amir Mahyar Moradi is the pianist in the first video above, he has performed the Rachmaninov Second with the TSO more than once as you can see in these videos:

Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4

Has Iran ever attacked another country unprovoked?
“Iran has not invaded any countries in the past 200 years since the establishment of Qajar dynasty. This is despite the fact that Iran is more than a match for most of its neighbors….Iran believes in soft power and will try to influence countries in the region through other than military means. Iran’s defense doctrine states that this type of influence is more effective in protecting Iran against hostile neighbors or external powers stationed within them.” The same cannot be said about the US, can it? The US is the only nation to have ever used nuclear weapons on a civilian population. With their massive stockpile of nuclear weapons, they have the hypocrisy to dictate to other sovereign nations what arsenals they can and cannot have. The Empire makes a hobby out of invading and bullying sovereign nations.

el 7 de julio de 2019: And how hypocritical to hear the insane, demented and bloviating current White House resident lecture Iran that they will not be allowed to develop nuclear weapons, considering the huge stockpile of nuclear weapons that the US has, and the US is the only nation to have ever used nuclear weapons on a civilian population. When might we expect the US to get rid of their stockpile before they go lecturing other nations? I oppose all nuclear weapons. I’m merely pointing out the blatant hypocrisy, which is so typical of the US with their arrogant, “Do as we say, not as we do; it’s all right for us but not for you” septic mentality. But this guy campaigned as a “non-interventionist” and “not part of the swamp” when he’s been the opposite. I asked some of Mr Non-Interventionist Intervenionist’s rabid disciples how they justify their messiah rubbing shoulders with, shaking hands and getting cozy with non-white world leaders around the world since many if not most of his rabid disciples are white supremacists/anti-ethnic, sexist and of a Male Patriarchy mentality and very proud of all of that. I explained that I had read probably thousands of comments online from his supporters and so I asked how they justify Mr White Supremacist hanging out with people of various ethnic backgrounds? Can you predict their response? No one would answer the question but as expected attacked me for asking it, saying that my comment was based on “fake news.” No, it has nothing to do with “fake news.” The comments I was talking about were written by his supporters on message forums. I got nothing from the news or “fake news.” So, I realised very quickly that the bottom line with these insipid people is that whatever he does is perfectly fine with them as long as he continues to tell them what they want and expect to hear from him: Hate and banks of lies. They still support him. They consider him meeting with Asian and Middle Eastern leaders as part of the job. It’s just that they refuse to talk about the things they don’t like that he does. Well that’s the same thing that the Obamabots did with their messiah Obama. These two cults share the same tactics and mentality. They’re just differently named cults based in blind brainwashed partisan faith and allegiance. As I wrote during his first campaign, the two mentalities are the same. I just wanted to update about that. Now, no more politics due to my blood pressure readings.

The New San Francisco: A City of Closet Cases

Hola a todos. This article was written while the Conservatory was closed for the 2019 holidays. I filled the time with this venting article. (How’s my blood pressure? Hopefully near 120/80.)

Man, this City has changed. From a Gay Mecca to a Closet Case Mecca, I guess you could say. A queer homeowner in The Castro who recently sold his home and who is leaving San Francisco calls it The Baby Stroller Kingdom and it’s part of the reason he’s leaving. Mi amigo and I call it The Breeder Mecca. Either is appropriate.

Mi amigo/My friend and I went shopping together yesterday, including food shopping. The food store where we shop is the only food store in San Francisco that closes for “Pride Inc.” Sunday in June. I say that just to let you know how the store feels about queers. Well, despite that, many closeted queers shop there — oh the irony in that; we see them nearly every visit — with their required female to give the impression that he’s straight. I don’t know who these guys are trying to fool when other customers with the most minimal of gaydar can tell he’s queer. So while in the store we saw at least three queer Millennial guys pretending to be straight/heterosexual with the mandatory blond females. This is something we never saw in the Old City of the Gay Mecca and particularly in this store in those days. All the queer guys we saw in the Old City were either with other queer boys or they were alone. They were not ashamed of their sexual orientation. During the Gay Mecca decades, gay guys said, “I’m gay.” Period. Pretty simple and that’s all that’s necessary. They didn’t do any of that new, “I identify as (gay/queer/bi et al)” rubbish that we see today from the corporatist comformists. Today, apparently one can’t just say “I’m gay” or “I’m lesbian.” One is supposed to say, “I identify as gay, lesbian, bi, trans.” Why the “identify?” What utter nonsense. “I identify” implies that one can change one’s sexual orientation on a daily basis — depending upon how one “identifies” that day — and as easily a weather system coming through. Has no one ever thought of that? What is wrong with people?! How do you “identify” today? More insanity. And what idiots dreamed up that “I identify” rubbish to begin with? Probably the same corporatist basura who hijacked our now-dead Movement and who are directly responsible for many of our problems today. During the Gay Mecca decades, it was known as “Out and Proud.” Not today. That’s strikingly different from today’s thinking which seems to be “In and Ashamed.” In the closet and ashamed to be gay. Looking around Produce while food shopping, I said to mi amigo: There’s a “cc” (that’s our code language for closet case) right there. He said, “Yes I know. I saw him too. The guy is with a female acting like a straight couple. At least they haven’t made out in here yet.”

I’m glad he said “yet” because we’ve seen that too in this food store. These closet cases with their females go to a grocery store to make out in Produce. Perhaps they do that — the closet case initiates the kiss — because they’ve seen genuine straight guys with females do that. I’ve seen that too on occasion. These exhibitionists act oblivious to anyone else in the store. They never look at anyone but each other with fawning eyes (they often look like they just met) and by the closet case’s behaviour he seems intent on trying to prove to the world how straight he is. Are they constantly thinking to themselves: I hope everyone in the store saw me making out with a chick in Produce and will now believe that I’m straight. (Psssssst: But no one in the store knows you, Mr Closet Case, so who cares? And some of us still don’t believe that you’re straight no matter how many chicks you make out with even though that’s enormously important to you.) Then a few weeks ago in the same food store, we saw this curious 3-way type arrangement. Two Millennial guys and a Millennial chick (all the same height surprisingly). It was unclear what arrangement they had going. One of the guys looked like he was trying to rub up against Ms Blond’s butt while she fondled the lemons and the second Millennial guy watched from about 2 feet away. WTF was that about? Then on this visit, mi amigo pointed out another “cc” down one of the aisles in view from Produce. It would appear that Mr Closet Case and others like him think that by making out with his girl in the store that he can “kiss the gay away” and later “breed the gay away.” Sorry Mr Closet Case, it doesn’t work that way as you may find out too late with 18+ years of child support payments and possibly wishing you’d never met Ms Blond. Then we saw this particular closet case in the Produce Section feed one of the cheese samples to his blond girl. Ah, isn’t that so romantic? It warms the heart, doesn’t it? (roll eyes) I thought: Ms Helpless can’t feed her own face? Does he have to feed her at home like she’s a Gerber Baby? Then mi amigo pointed out another “cc” down the aisle. That one was really obvious. He was so fem, but still it was the mandatory him-tall/her-short-blond. I looked down the aisle. Yes, all of these Millennial closet case couples were the required him-tall/her-short. Mi amigo asked me in frustration: Can’t these women tell that the guy they’re with is gay since it’s obvious to us. I said: From my research some suspect he is queer, others know but choose denial because at least a guy is finally giving her the attention she craves and can put up with her and treats her like the “princess” she think she is. (roll eyes). Feminism is dead. Well to be clear: He treats her like the “princess” until he gets pissed off enough with her and then that’s when the breeder domestic abuse starts and the loud “fuck you’s” begin. We hear “him and her” screaming at each other, sometimes they come out into the street to continue their fight and the cops show up. That scenario has repeated itself several times in recent months on my street. Mi amigo and I look at each other and say: We had none of this dysfunction when it was a peaceful queer neighbourhood.

We did see one or two single queer boys in the store but their noses were facing the ceiling unfortunately. Snots. They thought they were too good to say a friendly “hello, how are you?” to another queer boy. Man, things have really changed in this City. Keep in mind this is the same City where gay cruising was pretty common no matter where you were during the Gay Mecca Days. NOT TODAY! Don’t even think of it. Except on the rare occasion, the only cruising that takes place today is on that screen that’s glued to one’s hand where one scrolls mindlessly and endlessly through millions of sex profiles. Profiles which are usually full of lies with one’s penis size given in internet inches (6″ = 9″, and where overweight guys are sanitised and called “a bear” or a “cub.” It makes being overweight perfectly acceptable and it’s a sexual fetish for some people. Meanwhile, the guy you’re really hot for just walked by you but you didn’t look up from your phone to see him.)

We saw only one queer male couple in the store but they refused to look at anybody. They were snots too.

Then over in the Herbs area of the store, there were these oblivious, inconsiderate females with babies in condominium-sized baby strollers in the way of other customers who were trying to get their herbs. These mothers felt the need to teach their children about herbs when it was an inappropriate time to do so in a crowded store. (Some people are absolutely clueless.) But what she was really doing was trying to get attention for herself with her loud voice. Isn’t getting attention part of the reason that females want to have babies to begin with, so that everyone will “oooooh and aaaaaah” over her baby, giving her attention? “Oh what a cute little baby. How old is it?” And on the odd occasion that some parents wear the baby on their chest, most in San Francisco wear the baby incorrectly with the baby facing out chafing its hanging arms and legs — that’s so that everyone can see their baby’s face and “oooooh and aaaaah” over the child giving the parent attention — rather than the correct way of wearing the baby by having the child’s back to the public and where the parent and child can bond, which is one of the purposes of wearing the baby to begin with. Dense people.

Well, that was the store experience on the weekend. I don’t care to repeat that again. It’s better during the week when the people we saw are presumably at work.

Then later, mi amigo went on a walk up to Upper Market. He said it was very crowded out. Droves of him-tall/her-short straight couples everywhere he looked. He saw two male couples that he, at first, thought were queer male couples. But no. As each male couple walked by him one of the guys was talking about his chick. He said, “So we went back to her place last night.” Well that must not have been too memorable or favourable otherwise he’d still be with Ms (Blond?) Wonderful and not with this guy, no? Or are they both closet cases and haven’t come out to each other yet? With the second male couple, one of the guys was complaining about what his chick had done. Sounds like a wonderful relationship. [Sarcasm intended]. Although that’s usually what we hear. Supposedly “straight” guys complaining about their chicks — maybe he’s with the wrong gender (duh)? — and females complaining about their guys. Or she’s complaining about some other female she’s having a dysfunction with. We’ve not heard any guys say, “I’ve got a wonderful girl/wife.” Instead, it’s always complaining about her. Might that be an indicator that you’re paired off wrong with the wrong gender?

Then I was reading a review of a gay bar in The Castro, The (new) Breeder Mecca. Well it used to be a gay bar but the management now sanitises the description of the bar by calling it a “mixed bar.” Ugh. Oh one of those. Translation: Straights taking over another gay bar.

The one question I always have with a “mixed bar” is: In a “mixed bar” how on Earth does a gay guy determine the sexual orientation of another guy that he’s interested in without getting his face punched in for trying to pick up a (homophobic?) straight guy who’s sitting in an allegedly gay bar but who thinks the bar is a straight bar? Hmmmmm? Suppose a gay guy sitting in this “mixed bar” made the mistake of trying to show interest in this straight guy who was wearing the “Fuck You, Homo” t-shirt in The Castro. Imagine that guy sitting in this bar. Prepare for a possible altercation, if not more. There’s always been a very justifiable and legitimate reason for separate bars: gay and straight. Does one need to explain that? Homophobia has not been erased from our society. Far from it. In fact, if one has been paying attention, things are going in the opposite direction with hate, hate, hate. The bar’s management claims, “We welcome everyone.” Oh how heart-warming to hear that. (roll eyes) Of course they don’t mean that. I suspect if white supremacists and or obvious homophobes showed up in their “mixed bar” they would be asked to leave. “We welcome everyone” is just a cheap marketing gimmick. We’re not stupid here. When they say, “We welcome everyone” what they really mean is: We welcome the straight$ who are taking over our bar.

One female wrote a complaint about this “mixed bar.” She said another customer’s friend assaulted her as he was trying to help his friend pick up a chick in a supposedly gay bar. You might be asking: Have all the straight bars closed in San Francisco? Is that why straights are hanging out in a gay bar and taking it over? No. I’ve not heard of the closure of any straight bars. Your follow-up question might be: Then what are these straight guys doing in a supposedly gay bar trying to pick up a chick? Yeah. Don’t get me started on that. Think of it as The Century of Insanity. It’s just that the breeders are never satisfied. They want it all. She used the term “wing man” in reference to the guy who was trying to pick up a chick for his friend. Sigh. I swear, you couldn’t make this shit up if you tried. Despite the false impression that some people love to give, things are not Lovey-Dovey between the breeders and queers, and never will be. Period.

Bottom line: In all of his walk, mi amigo didn’t see one openly queer guy the entire time and this is San Francisco I’m talking about, people. It’s not some rural area or the suburbs. Society’s Straight Agenda BrainwashingTM has worked splendidly here and is in full force as can be seen on a daily basis.

It’s stunning really — considering what this City used to be — which is the irony in all this. I wrote about this when Craigslist personals were around. At that time, I did some research and the overwhelming majority of Men-seeking-Men ads for San Francisco, the Bay Area and other major cities claimed to be “bi.” In other words, the gay population had en masse supposedly changed their sexuality to “bi” overnight, based on their ads, including (at that time) San Francisco’s fading Gay Mecca, The Castro. So the fading Gay Mecca had become the Bi Mecca overnight? Does anyone honestly believe that? Human sexuality does not work that way where people en masse can suddenly change their sexuality or sexual orientation. Why were gay guys lying and claiming to now be bi (and some are still saying that)? They were merely copying each other’s ads in order to “fit in.” To conform. They were also running from that dreaded word “gay” (in their gay-shame minds) and its negative connotations. But we’ve made tremendous progress, right? (roll eyes). Not if you examine the heads of many, if not most queers today we haven’t! Only a few guys on Craigslist were still saying they were gay or GWM (Gay White Male). By the majority claiming they were “bi,” in their mind it makes them closer to being straight and that means “normal” and a “real man.” Heteronormative. That’s the homophobic mentality we’re still dealing with in the (closeted) gay population today. At that time, mi amigo tested some of these fake bi guys in phone sex calls with them. That was interesting. The moment he brought up females, breasts and vagina in a call with the supposed bi guy that was the end of the call. The guy hung up on him. The supposed bi guy had no interests in women. The majority of them were lying about being bi. They were gay. Claiming to bi was just a macho head trip/sexual fetish thing for the majority, but their sexual interests were still entirely into guys. Mi amigo talked with only a few guys who were genuinely bi.

Oh, and I almost forgot. Most of the fake-bi guys copied each other’s ad with the language saying that they were looking to get together with another guy because their girlfriend was away/out of town. (Yeah right). There were plane loads of girlfriends out of town at any one time. I kept asking where they were all going and didn’t they ever run into each other? Most of these guys were gay, pretending to be bi, just like the fake bi guys that mi amigo talked with in phone sex calls. There were a few genuinely bi guys in the group with the “girlfriend out of town.” I wrote about that here: With straight and bi guys, the girlfriend is always out of town. Also: Holding her Hand, Girlfriend Away.

So why did Millennial closet cases with or married to blond-haired females move to San Francisco in droves? What is that about? And where did they move here from to come with that closet case state of mind?

As I wrote in a previous article, I realise mi amigo and I are the only two people who seem to care about this. All others seem to be focused on and only concerned about their own little queer niche.

Even though this article focuses on closeted gay guys because they are the queer group I especially notice, they are not the only queer group to have returned to the closet in droves. I’ve read comments online from older lesbians stating that Millennial lesbians are trying to be heteronormative and trying to look like straight women with long flowing blond or brown hair and lipstick (Lipstick Lesbians) and that they (older lesbians) can’t tell which women are straight and which are queer any more. I can’t either. The same with closeted bi guys. There’s no shortage of them, many of them admit to being closeted by saying, “Bi, NOT out.” And the same for trans. As for lesbians, there’s a woman I know to some degree and have talked with on several occasions for a couple of years. It wasn’t until the other night that she mentioned her female partner. It took her two years for her to reveal that even though we had talked about queer-related topics in the past, but she kept giving me the impression that she was straight. So I had no idea what she was.

This problem is across the board. It’s not limited to a person’s special queer niche. I can hear it now: “I’m only interested in trans” or “I’m only interested in bi” or I’m only interested in lesbians.” Oh, okay. Then this article is not for you. So back to the focus of this article: Why are most queers not interested in focusing more on the broader picture of why — here at the end of 2019 and after a decades-long Gay Rights Movement — so many gay guys (millions worldwide since they are in the majority) are still in the closet or have gone back in the closet. Because of society’s Straight Agenda Brainwashing which is shoved in our faces 24/7? There was once a time — during our Movement — where queers rejected that. Not these days. Again, most people seem completely disinterested in this topic — of what appears to be — a return to the closet, which from all indications started after gay marriage became legal in the US and queers were ordered to “assimilate.” Most people seem to have interpreted “assimilate” to mean go back in the closet to “blend in” with the breeders and be mainstream (alternative is passé) and be as much like the breeders as possible, including marrying females to “assimilate.” So why did some gay guys work decades for gay marriage when in the end they were ultimately going to go back in the closet and marry a female (to please homophobic mommy and daddy?), which they could have done to begin with? Insanity. What have these closet cases told their parents/family? That “gay was just a phase?” But what we’re talking about here is: Back in the closet. That cannot be overstated. Therefore, that ludicrous dictate that we were given to “assimilate” by those corporatist idiots has completely backfired as some of us predicted would happen.

The lack of interest in this topic does indeed irritate me almost as much as the closet cases do. But I just felt like saying this once more, and probably for the last time because I feel like a “broken record.” This article could be a permanent article over on the side of the page and it would still remain current for years to come I suspect, at the rate things are going: Backwards in the closet to the mentality and behaviour of the 1940s-50s.

So why does this bother me, one might ask?

Mi amigo and I were talking about why this bothers me. Well, I finally analysed it. Seeing droves of gay guys in the closet and with females is new to me. It’s because all of my adult life I have lived in major cities surrounded by a very active and openly queer community. I lived in the District of Columbia for years near Dupont Circle. I had my queer friends from the Conservatory where I trained — we all moved into the District after we graduated — and I had queer friends in the Orchestra Choruses I performed with in the Kennedy Center Concert Hall. I did not see nor was I around closet cases. Then I moved to San Francisco at the height of the Gay Mecca. I didn’t see any gay guys with females there. At that time, when I was a chorister in the San Francisco Symphony Chorus, many of the tenors and basses were queer. I had many queer friends in the SF Symphony Chorus. Our wonderful Chorus Director was queer as was our excellent Chorus Secretary (Greg B.). I did not see nor was I around closet cases and especially closet cases with a girlfriend or wife. I did not see what annoys me today until in recent years when the techie trash raped San Francisco and started their cancerous invasion of this City. They have ruined San Francisco — this City is nothing like it was — and they have disrespected our neighbourhoods and cultures. I never saw a straight couple in The Castro, or at least one that I noticed. During the Gay Mecca days, the straight couples did not shove their sexuality in our queer faces like they do today. I never saw a straight couple making out under the large Rainbow Flag in Harvey Milk Plaza shoving their breeder sexuality in our faces. When mi amigo and I saw that a few years ago, that was stunning to witness and I’m not easily surprised by anything. Rarely does anything phase me. I’ve seen it all from some of my additional work in the mental health field. Other people I worked with at that agency say the same. It’s not been until later in my life that – BAMM! — like ice cubes being thrown in one’s face that I’ve been exposed to a steady stream of obvious Millennial closet cases with their (blond) females and I find it damn annoying. They love to shove their straight sexuality in our faces as if to say, “This is our neighbourhood now. We’re marking our territory now despite all these Rainbow Flags still up for touri$t dollars. Get out of here faggots.” And I wouldn’t be surprised if they used that pejorative language considering a shirt I saw a straight guy wearing recently in The Castro which read: Fuck You, Homo. I wrote about it at that link. Imagine a gay guy approaching him in that “mixed bar” I wrote about up above. See what I mean? I think due to the straight take-over of The Castro and also due to the current political climate of hate and divisiveness as established by the current White House occupant and the basura around him, many people now feel quite comfortable expressing their true bigoted, prejudiced and homophobic feelings. Some of these new Millennial residents have been heard making anti-gay comments.

Gay shame and homophobia are two reasons that a gay guy is in the closet. Other reasons can include: Homophobic peer pressure as well as the gay guy continuing to be nagged by his parents with the perfunctory “When are you going to find a nice girl and settle down and start a family?” The closet case is too weak of a person to tell his family to “Butt out, I’m queer and will live my life as I so choose. I’m not interested in contributing to an already over-populated planet by breeding and another dysfunctional breeder relationship of him-tall and her-short. I will not live my life according to your Heteronormative Homophobic Bigoted Straight Agenda Breeder Script. Do we now understand each other?

Which leaves me asking: What kind of trash raised these weak closet case Millennials with that mindset? Since they’re in their 20s and 30s, that would have to be roughly the 40s and 50s age group who are their homophobic and bigoted parents.

Mi amigo’s experience has been the opposite of mine because of where he lived previously to moving to San Francisco. But he, too, is also annoyed by this.

Now I’m fully aware — and have written about — the millions of closeted gay guys with females and with children living around the world. But they are not in my face on a daily basis. This “in your face” closet case phenomenon is all new to me because, again, I didn’t see any of this during the decades of the Gay Mecca years or before I moved to San Francisco from the District. It is now so “in our faces” daily with these closet case Millennial guys who have moved here in droves to San Francisco. And these closeted Millennial gay guys are usually with a short female who could easily pass as his little daughter — they’re usually called “Fifi” (inside joke) — and she has the required blond hair. Out of a bottle? I’ve never seen so many blondes in my life!

I presume these closeted Millennial gay guys are the techie trash because who else but them have moved here and continue to move here in droves, but I don’t know for a fact that they are the techies. Although they fit their established reputation around here. If they are not the techies, how can they possibly afford to live here? Or is wealthy mommy and daddy paying their way? I don’t know. It’s a mystery. The thing is: There are only so many millionaires and billionaires in the world. One gets the impression that the authorities in San Francisco are trying to get the population of this peninsula already over-crowded City up to about 10 million or something, from the original 849,000+ (roughly) population before the techie trash arrived. But clearly, no out-of-the-closet queers are moving here. They’re moving away, what few are left.

But as mi amigo said about these closeted queer guys with females: It’s his life he’s ruining, and possibly the lives of others. Living in that closet is extremely unhealthy and takes its toll. True.

It’s just extremely ironic that they’ve moved here — to the most expensive City in the non-United States — in droves. It’s almost as if they had never heard of San Francisco and knew nothing about The City they were moving to. And some of these new residents look barely out of their teen-years. How can they afford to live here without having 10-20 roommates sharing the place with most sleeping in the living room? Are people still falling for that “San Francisco is the City of Innovation” marketing gimmick that one hears on the East Coast of the non-United States? The response to that seems to be, “Oh, we must all move there then. San Francisco is now the ‘in’ place to be. It’s the tech capital.”

Translation: A lobotomised tech capital culture-less City full of (mostly white) phone-zombie Millennial closet cases with their blond-haired wife or girlfriend.

With few exceptions from our experiences, these Millennial techie trash are void of any culture or genuine social skills and seem absolutely incapable of any pleasantries. They mostly seem like lobotomised zombies who were born without the muscles required to smile. Their constant frowns are duly noted as well as the nasty looks they give to anyone older than themselves. From what I’ve read, they blame anyone older than themselves for all the problems in the world. They take no responsibility for any of it. It would appear that one’s techie job is not all that one thought it would be or was promised in “The City of Innovation” or down in Billionaire Valley (Silicon Valley)? I read while writing this article that half of the 143 techie billionaires en el mundo/in the world live down there. May one presume that of those billionaires who are queer, that most of them are closet cases too with the perfunctory and ubiquitous blond female? I. Suspect. So.

A suggestion: When may we expect those — what have become useless and irrelevant — wealthy, elitist, pro-Establishment, queer corporatist and corporate-hijacked organisations at the state and national levels — you know the ones; they have their lavish annual $500.00+/plate Gala Dinner (Dahling) for queers of a certain income bracket and where they honour a billionaire — in the US to actually do their damn job, rather than eating “Democratic” Party Cult ass? These elitist corporatist queer organisations I’m thinking of could have all closed following gay marriage becoming legal in the US — that was officially the end of the Gay and Lesbian Rights Movement in the US after they gave the dictate to “assimilate with the straights” — and no one would have missed those elitist corporatist organisations since. When will they decide to become relevant again by running major campaigns online and on corporate television networks asking the audience: “Are you a techie guy in the closet with a short blond girlfriend or wife? There’s free help for you available. We can connect you with the appropriate pro-queer psychologists in your area to help you live a healthy life and to work through and eradicate those awful, guilt-felt feelings of gay shame and homophobia within your person and live a healthy life. Would you like to have the freedom of looking at guys without having to do so out of the corner of your eye so that Ms Blond doesn’t catch you and without getting her elbow in your ribs every time because she caught you once again looking at another guy, as if she thinks her repeated elbows will keep you “straight?” If so, call us now to start the process of removing your gay shame and to live an healthy and more productive life with another guy that you sincerely want to be with and have probably dreamed of being with over the years. Rather than wasting your entire life living with the wrong gender to please someone else in your life. Isn’t your life more important to you than that? Call us to deprogramme all of that anti-gay hate you heard and learned from your parents and peers. You are an adult now. You are not required to live under the locks and chains of the Straight Agenda Script that your homophobic family planned for you.” Oh I like that. That might stir things up a bit. That might cause some people to start asking questions. Imagine some of these ditzy blond females asking Mr Closet Case about this when he gets home from that techie job: “Honey, did you have a nice day? Now don’t take this the wrong way, but are you in the closet? I’ve suspected it for some time but wanted to deny it. And I remember seeing pics of guys on your phone, but I didn’t say anything. Are you a closet case, honey? He looks shocked and says: Well no, honey, you know how much I love you and love having sex with you and (unspoken: your smelly vagina; do you ever wash down there or does it just cum that way? You may have noticed that I prolong the upper-body foreplay as long as absolutely possible to avoid having to go down there and I’m careful to wash my penis multiple times afterwards to get that rank smell off of it. When I sucked my closeted roommate’s dick in college on a regular basis smells were never an issue for us guys. I really miss those days thinking back on them). He snaps back to reality: Oh yeah, what were we talking about honey? She responds with: Well I’m asking because I saw something on television about this epidemic of Millennial closet case guys and I thought of you, and truthfully I’ve never felt quite the same connection with you that I have with other straight guys I’ve been with. So I’m wondering are you fantasising about having sex with a guy you saw at work or earlier in the day when you have sex with me?” Oh that ought to do it! Now when may we expect to see these ads running? Yeah right. Not in my lifetime. I’m a realist. To begin with, I can’t imagine that any of those big-name queer organisations I have in mind would ever have the spine to run such an ad. But I think it would be a perfect idea. I’d run them myself if I had the financial resources. Although I suspect I would hit many walls because “The Powers That Be” don’t want to offend the weak closet cases or their blond females or the millionaire-billionaire owned Sacrosanct Tech Industrial ComplexTM. Chau.—el barrio rosa

Related:

San Francisco’s Castro: The Baby Stroller Kingdom (This article is about another longtime queer homeowner in The Castro who is leaving The City).

But it’s not just San Francisco: Chelsea: The Death of a Gay Neighborhood, Murdered by Neo-Hetero-Homophobes

Nearly 50% of Queer USians are in the closet at work: Despite the many problems I have with the language — such as that “identify as…” rubbish and the revisionist history “LGBTQ” caca — used in this article as well as the low 50% figure, I’m linking to it. I think it’s far more than 50%. Just as we’re told (the last I heard) that 10% of the population is queer. Where did they get that low 10% figure and how would they possibly know that when most queers worldwide are in the closet and married to females with children? For example: ” In the study’s report, the authors concluded that a significant number of middle-aged German gay men have not come out, writing: “A considerable proportion of homosexual identified men live a heterosexual life.” We identified a group that recognises its homosexuality, but do not live it, and instead lead and have led a purely heterosexual life – often with a wife and children,” she said.” Source.

The Power And Privilege Of ‘Passing’ As Straight: “Why, for a passing moment, did I secretly feel pleased that someone might think I was straight?”