The Sexist Women of The Male Patriarchy. These women say, “He’s just being a gentleman.” Ugh. No, he’s just being a sexist pig. Real “gentlemen” — a word I never use — are not sexists.
Hola a todos. Ah yes, the classical music tradition’s inherent sexism. Where does one even begin with that? Well, it’s not about to go away. In fact, things appear to be going backwards. Some progress that one thought had been made over decades is now being erased in many areas, in many ways as things go back to the way they used to be, to the delight of the rabid far-right conservatives. And in many cases, I’ve noticed that the fake-progressives and Establishment fake-liberals are taking part in this return to the past.
As I completed this article, I saw a performance of a piano concerto. The piano soloist — who shall remain nameless — was of the Millennial generation. He felt the need to slobber over the hand of the First Concertmaster (a female) when he approached the piano before his performance and then again at the end of the performance. But the Second Concertmaster (a guy) only merited a handshake. Poor guy. So this Millennial pianist has been brainwashed very early-on with sexism. The First Concertmaster clearly appreciated his sexism. Does she share the Male Patriarchy mentality? She became all smiles and acted giddy and was slightly bouncing around in her seat during the bows smiling broadly at the piano soloist just because this young kid/guy had kissed her hand and — after the performance — kissed her cheek when he also shook her hand as representative of the Orchestra. Honestly females, are you really that desperate for affection/to be kissed? It would seem so. So it’s not just the older generation who engage in this sexism. Some in the younger generations are just as bad in this regard that I talk about in this article, and their sexist behaviour will continue to promote it.
Sexism and the Male Patriarchy mentality does indeed seem to be inherent to the classical music genre. What’s known as “the greying audience” sees absolutely nothing wrong with it because that’s the generation that was heavily brainwashed with this generational sexism. Societal brainwashing teaches men to cater to women (with women being submissive to men) by men opening doors for helpless her, pulling out chairs for helpless her, buying needy her flowers, buying needy her expensive dinner$ and buying her expensive gift$. As my heterosexual neighbour — who hasn’t had the best luck with females — has told me many times: “You have to empty your credit union or corporate bank account on ‘the little lady’ (as they’re called) as entrance rights into that stinky vagina.” I’ve heard that from other guys. And that’s the bottom line of all this when the truth be told; I mean let’s tell it like it is here. This no time or place to mince words.
Mi amigo/My friend asked: If men were not intensely brainwashed by society and subjected to intense peer pressure that they are supposed to be into slimy/mucous-y vagina, would they really like it? I suspect not. He told me that when he was in the US military that the Black guys absolutely refused to engage in cunnilingus. They were not about to go down on some female because of the rank smell. Only some of the white guys did that but only after buying a can of whipped cream and filling her vagina with it and covering the outside with whipped cream to make it more “appealing” and to camouflage the stench (the smell of estrogen?).
Men are indeed brainwashed to let these helpless creatures called females go first ahead of the guy. You’ve heard that outdated “Ladies go first” pabulum haven’t you? These guys talk about their “the little lady” on Tuesday night with their guy friends, and then by Thursday night he can be seen and or heard engaged in domestic violence of “the little lady” as he slaps her upside the head or elsewhere having become fed up with her constant nagging of him. His hypocrisy is noted, and all of his catering to needy her is temporarily suspended.
The sexist female apologists among us rush to justify and condone the sexism by saying: “He’s just being a gentleman.” Translation according to the Male Patriarchy Mentality: Gentleman = a sexist pig who caters to women and who holds to the societal-brainwashed Male Patriarchy mindset. And apparently these sexist female apologists are all for that because they were brainwashed with that thinking too, so let’s tell it like it is shall we? Sexist females seem to be desperate and needy for constant attention from guys.
Yes, the guy is being a male chauvinist and a sexist and many people see nothing wrong with it, per their conformist societal brainwashing. And some/many females are the first to defend sexism, chivalry, and misogyny. These sexist females lash out at the #metoo movement, as one example, because in their minds no man can ever sexually assault a female. According to the sexist females, it’s always the female who is at fault. They call any evidence the female presents “hearsay.” Instead, the woman is always lying and making up bad stories about the men who allegedly came on to her or sexually assaulted/raped her. Sexist females are some of women’s worst enemies. I’ve read comments from sexist females, and they really come across as anti-women. Or they say, “her purpose is to serve men” meaning she’s “on call” whenever he chooses for sexual favours. But don’t try to talk to sexist women rationally because you’ll get nowhere. Sexism is as brainwashed into people as their partisan politics or religious beliefs.
They were talking about this subject in the Conservatory recently which is one of many reasons why I decided to write about it. Awhile back I wrote another article speaking to the inherent sexism in the classical music tradition. In that article, (which you can read there) I wrote about the piano soloist in a piano concerto who was given a bouquet of flowers from orchestral management during his bows. Well, less than 5 seconds later, Mr Ungrateful Piano Soloist had dumped those flowers on one of the female violinists near the back of the stage as he walked to the stage door. Naturally, the look on her face was that of: Why did he just give me his flowers? They were just given to him less than 5 seconds ago? Do I look like his garbage can? Did he even look at them?
If orchestral management had wanted the violinist to have his flowers, they would have given them to her to begin with, and not to him. Unfortunately, it appeared that flowers threatened this male pianist’s delicate and fragile masculinity. Who knew that flowers had that much power? Well there was something called “flower power” during the 1960s but that’s another topic. Someone in the comments under that performance remarked about Mr Ungrateful’s sexist decision to use a female as his trashbin for his flowers and noted the sexism involved in his thinking. Note that he didn’t give the flowers to another male musician, or to the First Concertmaster (a guy) who represents the Orchestra if he (Mr Ungrateful Piano Soloist) felt that the Orchestra was more deserving of the las flores/the flowers. Then, as expected, all of the commenters under that video supported the sexism of the pianist and their language spoke of heavily-brainwashed generational sexism and the Male Patriarchy mentality where the female is to be catered to at all times by the man. Some even went so far to say that the piano soloist was interested in the female violinist romantically. Apparently those sexist idiots never looked at the pianist’s hands while he was playing — where were they looking ? — to see that wedding ring on his right hand fourth finger, meaning that he’s either married to a female or to a guy. The sexist commenters stopped short of saying “a woman belongs barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen” but they came close to that thinking in their comments.
On another occasion, at the end of a symphonic choral performance at the BBC Proms, I saw conductor Donald Runnicles double-kiss both female vocal soloists. He did not kiss the male soloists at all which gave the impression that he didn’t feel that the male soloists performed as well as the females. Or does Donald hold to some outdated generational thinking that “guys don’t kiss other guys” as a friendly gesture? Well, at that time — before the majority of UK voters became insane and installed the far-right Tories and Boris as Prime Minister — the UK was a member state of the EU, and guys certainly do kiss each other in the EU as a friendly gesture. I think most men in the EU are more secure with their sexuality and masculinity than the men in the dis-United States with their fragile masculinity. All that Donald did with the male soloists was a stereotypical “guy handshake.” The message he sent was that of outdated thinking and that of generational sexism which is: “Men only shake hands with each other, but men are supposed to kiss women.”
As for females, I could never live with a female, I can tell you that from experience! I just could not put up with her. Females can flip on a dime. I do not know how men — who have been brainwashed by our heteronormative society that they are supposed to be with a female and who are living with or married to females — put up with females quite frankly. Especially in crisis or semi-crisis situations, females just melt down. They’re so damn emotional. I’ve seen this from every female in my apartment building. They become syrupy — what I call — “drippy pussies.” Completely emotional-based, rather than rationale, sane and reasonable-based. And often the guy that a female is in a relationship with, he has been “womanised” by her. He’s just like her when it comes to a crisis. He becomes a syrupy “drippy pussy” too because of her influences on him and of her control of him. These women do indeed control their men and most men allow that it seems. It has to do with entrance rights into that smelly slimy pussy when the truth be told. Some people are probably saying, “I don’t believe what I’m reading here.” Well you should believe it. The truth hurts doesn’t it?! Come out of your damn denial.
From my experience with women just as friends, the friendships have been quite unpredictable at times and rocky. I’ve learned that one has to be very careful with females. Or just not bother with them at all! That’s even better. You’re much safer with that route. I know from experience. You never know what you’re going to get with females and their unstable emotions which seemed to be controlled entirely by their hormones, and sexual plumbing. It’s as if they have multiple personalities or persons all in the same female, but they seem unaware of that. And you never know which personality you’re going to get at any given time. Not all females of course, but most females — the majority — from my experience. I had a close female friend at the Conservatory and I never knew what her mood was going to be like from day-to-day or minute to minute. She was unpredictable emotionally. It was as if she had at least two personalities in her and I never knew which one I was going to be subjected to each morning in class or throughout the day when I’d see her. Mi amigo/My friend said: That does seem to be the case; two or more personalities come with each female. My friendship with her could best be described as difficult. The same for her unpredictable roommate and she was one of the orchestral musicians I accompanied (piano). They were both a piece of emotional work. Saying that their emotional state was like a roller coaster is an understatement. With most females I’ve encountered, one never knows what mood they will be in and their mood can change like a light switch five or six times an hour. Guys are much more stable emotionally, much more reasonable and rational. Guys/dudes/bros are much, much better than females. Guys don’t have meltdowns. Guys come wired for disaster. We just deal with it as it comes. We’re just used to it. And too often it has to do with some fucking female. And syrupy “drippy pussy” females can interpret the most benign and meaningless gestures as something much more than it was intended. One should not be surprised to hear from a female, “But you kissed me on the cheek twice out there on stage during the bows, and that told me you love me. I love you back.” I’ve had experiences where females completely misinterpreted my benign and innocent gestures with them as something as more than just friends, which left me scratching my head asking, “How on Earth did she come up with that interpretation of the situation? Loca.” They’re all fucking loca with few exceptions to that. As I said, I really don’t know how guys put up with them.
I’ve been especially reminded of this thing with females during these early days of the COVID-19 pandemic and the “shelter-in-place” order for San Francisco and other major cities. Nearly all the females mi amigo and I have come in contact with or know have been in emotional meltdown, dire crisis mode. The guys? Much calmer and taking it all in stride. No emotional meltdowns. Mi amigo saw one older female today — an acquaintance — and he said she was an emotional wreck and looked like she had been crying for days because of this virus. Jesus fucking christ. What is it with females? Get a fucking grip! He said he tried to talk with her rationally and reasonable but she was clearly panic-stricken like your typical melt-down female. Always needing or craving some drama in their lives.
Note to conductors: What I’m about to say should be “common sense,” but unfortunately “common sense” doesn’t seem to be very common these days. Instead, stupid is in: Conductors, watch who you kiss unless you welcome trouble. Well these days, you shouldn’t be kissing anybody other than the people very close to you who you already know. Even a hug with a female can be treacherous and interpreted differently than intended. With some of these male conductors, kissing the female musicians after the performance, it almost looks like the female is saying, “I certainly enjoyed our time together this afternoon in the hotel as well. Thank you again. Maybe you’ll request me as a soloist next time and we can have another rendezvous? I’d look forward to that. I really get off on the ‘power of a conductor’ penetrating me.” The prudes among us are gasping because I wrote that. Oh stop your damn gasping. Get out more! And don’t think what I wrote hasn’t happened or doesn’t go on routinely, people. Don’t be so damn naïve. It’s called “politics” in music and there is indeed sex in music politics, and politics of some sort run throughout music genres. I’ve known some concert venues where one can get to perform a certain piece that someone else was going to play if one performs sexual services for the concert manager. Absolutely.
But there’s no wonder that classical music is dying when you have these outdated and sexist gestures so inherent in a genre.
So when will older sexist male conductors stop slobbering over female musicians? Get a room somewhere if you’re that desperate, Mr Conductor! And why do you feel the need to do that, you sexist pigs? (No disrespect to pigs intended). These sexist conductors seem to think that just because they’re the conductor — and the power granted in that male-dominated position — that it gives them the licence to “have their way with any woman they want.” I think it is indeed a generational thing. I don’t recall younger conductors doing this nonsense. It seems to be the older male conductors only. And I don’t remember seeing the few female conductors that there are kissing anyone on stage.*
So what can be done about this sexism? Nothing really. Well, orchestral management could set guidelines on conductors’ behaviour — such as “a conductor is not allowed to kiss any musician on stage” just as management could say “all male musicians are required to keep the flowers we give them; none of our female musicians are your trashcan, understand?” — but I don’t see orchestral management writing such guidelines. They would say, “We don’t want to offend any conductors by writing such guidelines.” Translation: We prefer that the sexism continue rather than to offend a sexist celebrity-conductor. We don’t really have a problem with it. In fact, we sort of approve of it and condone it because we were also brainwashed with that mindset. It’s so engrained in the culture and we don’t really have a problem with it. And we suspect that many in our audience see these sexist gestures as “he’s just being a gentleman and catering to the little lady.” (Male Patriarchal mindset) That was one of the excuses in support of this sexism that one of the sexist Neanderthals wrote in the comments under that video. Those comments demonstrated that sexism is very much still with us and septic, as if the feminist movement never existed.
There was a time where only females were given flowers at the end of a performance, but I pointed out the sexism of that on BBC Radio 3’s message forum. Sometime after that, things changed in this regard, not that I had anything to do with this change. Although maybe someone read my comments about that and said: This person makes a good point. This should be changed. Well it looked odd to give the females flowers and the guys were left standing there and were given nothing in gratitude for their performance, other than their fee which is given to them from their artist management. But I don’t remember anyone supporting me when I wrote comments about that on Radio 3’s message forums. As usual, I don’t think anyone supported me. They usually don’t. I’m usually a lone voice with no support from anyone. I’m used to that. Most people go along with and rabidly defend the status quo. The classical music audience is quite conservative and, I think, mostly supports generational sexism of the Male Patriarchy mentality.
But again, this sexism is so engrained in the classical music culture. We’ll just have to wait for a certain sexist generation to die-off, and then we might see more equality in performances and not see male conductors oooohing and aaaaahing over females as if they’re some sex object doll waiting to be kissed, fawned over and later penetrated just because she sang a solo.
******** Well, really, it’s the culture in general having been brainwashed with the Male Patriarchy mentality. It’s not just the classical music culture. San Francisco’s new residents are mostly “him and her” Millennials having arrived as a result of the tech invasion. They are some of the most unfriendly and miserable-looking people you’ll see anywhere based on the constant frown they wear. They have no real social skills but probably think they do because they waste away their lives on Orwellian-named “social media.” “Social media” is just a slick marketing term for a website where one can type to people and show them pictures of your breakfast, lunch and dinner, and write silly-little sayings. As if anyone cares what someone else is eating! People addicted to “social media” frantically type with their thumbs on a screen as if their life depended upon it. Typing on a screen is not an example of social skills. Being able to talk fluently with people in person is an example of social skills. If these lobotomised and cultureless techies had to smile I think it would break their face. I guess that tech job is not all that they thought it was going to be. Tough luck. No one invited you to move here to begin with and there are planes leaving hourly for one to go back to the conservative cesspool where one came from. And these straight couples are perfect examples of sexism and male-domination over the female. Female submission to male domination. The needy female constantly requiring him to hold her hand in public. Is she that insecure with her guy whom she sees as “daddy?” And, as the good little submissive, she’s been brainwashed to walk one-half step behind her guy to show she’s not his equal but rather he is the dominant and “Head of the Household” and she is his submissive little girl. When they are not holding hands, her hand is on his arm like she’s on a leash connected to him. These Millennials have been completely brainwashed with the Male Patriarchy mentality. As for feminism? It doesn’t appear they’ve ever heard of that (or birth control for that matter) judging by their 1940s-1950s style behaviour.
The same goes for most of the classical music genre from what I’ve observed from their behaviour. Chau.—el barrio rosa