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Straight guys who actually suck dick ?

Straight guys who actually suck dick ? That’s Bull Shit. They’re living a lie. The reality is that they are closeted gay guys.

Hola a todos. Nearly every week, someone comes to pink barrio from doing a search for “straight guys who actually suck dick.” Since many people are interested in this topic, I decided to make it easier for people by writing this article specifically addressing that topic.

Okay Class, everyone pay attention now:

To begin with, the premise is wrong. “Straight” guys don’t suck dick. Now does everyone understand that before we proceed on? Gay and bi guys suck dick. Understand?

I see this all the time in the men for men personal sex ads. I don’t know who they think they’re fooling. Any guy who tries to prove how “straight” he is but is looking to suck dick is a liar and is being heteronormative/pretending to be “straight”. The guy is ashamed of being gay just like many other gay guys these days and that seems to be getting worse from what I’m seeing, and that includes here in now-conservative and lobotomised San Francisco. These guys have gay shame despite all this supposed progress that Brand LGBTTM likes to go on about that we’ve supposedly made. The so-called “straight” guy who is looking to suck dick or get fucked (I’ve seen that too on ClosetList) is either gay and in the closet, or he could be bisexual in the original definition of that word (meaning sexually into both guys and females). What I mean by that is that unfortunately these days many heteronormative gay guys with their gay shame are using the word “bi” to describe themselves even though they have no sexual interest in females. They use the word bi because to them bi sounds more masculine, more macho, heteronormative and closer to being “straight” than the word gay. I think to these heteronormative guys, the word gay has negative meanings. For example, it only means fem, even though intelligent people know that there are thousands and thousands of masculine gay guys out there.

These closet case “straight” guys have the usual closet case language in their personal sex ads, such as the words “discreet” (translation: a closet case and/or he’s cheating on someone, and they also use the letters “DL” meaning “down low” or in the closet). There’s clearly this obsession with “being straight” within the gay population which is part of gay shame. That’s why I and others say that despise decades of work during the now-dead Gay Rights Movements, it’s as if little was accomplished really. During those days, gay guys were “Out and Proud,” they were not “discreet” and “down low.” It’s quite sad what the gay population has become since the Gay Rights’ Movement died which occurred during the years of their messiah “Mr Jock” Obama. It’s as if “Out and Proud” went back in the closet when the corporatist idiots of Brand LGBTTM gave their “assimilation” orders to “assimilate” (translation: blend in and disappear like a wall flower) with the “straights” and try to be as much like them as possible. (Why? Who wants to be like the obnoxious in-your-face “straights” who love to come to San Francisco’s Castro and make out under Rainbow Flags and in front of what’s left of the Queer boys here? Queer boys are not into watching “straight” basura make out. Take your “straight” make out sessions to The Marina or North Beach or Union Street. You own the entire fucking city, what are you doing over here? Are you trying to show Queer boys how you make out? We don’t care! And I and the people I know don’t make it a point of going down to The Marina to make out in front of “straight” couples and nearly fuck on the sidewalk. Although admittedly, you have taken over The Castro as I wrote in this article about the “straight revolution,” and that’s what you’re doing over here, I presume.

I’ve written many articles detailing all the closet cases with their gay shame on the site I call ClosetList. To read those personal sex ads, one would come away with the conclusion that little progress has been made at all for GLBTQs and the gay population. Either most of those ads are purely fantasy or we have thousands and thousands of sexually fucked-up people out there.

Some guys say they’re “straight” and looking to suck dick. What they mean by that is that they are in the closet and everyone thinks he is “straight” because 1) he may have some needy-girlfriend hanging all over him like we see around The Castro and she’s tagging along with him as his “cover,” or 2) he is married to a female. But he’s still a gay guy in the closet. And these gay closet cases will sometimes say in their ads, “I don’t do this often” (meaning trying to hook up with a guy). Does it matter how often he tries to hook up with a guy? He’s trying to do so now. I wish they would stop trying to make excuses for themselves and stop down-playing what they’re trying to do. They want to have sex with a guy — and there’s nothing wrong with that — because they’re either gay or bi. So stop this “straight” phony act and stop lying about who you are. Other guys try to down-play what they’re doing by using the word “curious” as if they’re not sure about their sexual feelings. That could be the case with some people and I’m not dismissing that. But I think sometimes the word “curious” is meant to be heteronormative and to sanitise/downplay what the guy is trying to do. Can’t you hear him now: “I”m not really gay, I’m just curious because I think about sucking dick and getting fucked all the time.” Well it sounds like to me you’re a little bit more than “curious” if you’re thinking about sucking dick or getting fucked all the time. Something pretty intenso is going on within you and you should accept your gay feelings, stop living a damn lie to yourself and others and go enjoy yourself having sex with a guy of your choice. If someone has a problem with your Queer sexuality, that’s their problem, not yours. They are the ones who need psychotherapy, not you. Stop all this closet case nonsense that so much time and energy is wasted on. I have a short fuse for that at this point.

Here’s an example of what I’m talking about. It’s an excerpt from one ad I saw while writing this article:

“If you are mostly str8 like I am, under 33, and white, let’s meet and play — grope my bulge, grind, unzip, feel my monster cock boning. Then we’ll get naked and mess around … Most evenings, I stay at home with the wife and kids. Sometimes I can get a pass at night, but not till I know you’re reliable. …My 7 day load is gonna be a big one when I blow.”

First, your language “the wife” sounds so warmly affectionate [sarcasm intended], as opposed to “my wife and kids.” Secondly, you’re not “mostly str8” dude. You’re bi but mostly have sex with your wife, although based on your 7 day load you’ve built up that doesn’t necessarily seem to be the case either. But this dude calls himself “mostly str8.” Is that because he thinks that if he uses the word “bi” he’s getting too close to that dreaded “gay” word? We can’t have that! Then the guy said, “I’m 190, 6′ 1 “, athletic bod and white. Seeking only another white guy — no offense, that’s what I like. I’m more relaxed if you are curious or mostly straight.” What do you have against gay guys, chico? Why don’t you want to have sex with a gay guy since that’s what you’re looking for? You’re specifically looking for gay sex/sex with another guy.

Some things have been accomplished on a legal basis for GLBTQs, but some/many of those things have not translated over into most people’s daily lives when you see gay guys still married to females, and the thousands and thousands of gay closet cases still out there and gay guys with their gay shame who are still keeping of the charade by marrying females to give the appearance they’re “straight.” That reminds me: On television, are females required to be in all images with a guy where they are cheek-to-cheek? That’s what I see on my television (fútbol being the only exception to that that I know of). When was the last time you saw images of two guys cheek-to-cheek on the heteronormative corporate media networks? Observing the corporate media, one gets the strong impression that they think that everyone is “straight,” everyone should be “straight” and that “straight” is the desired and “normal” sexuality. And it appears that the corporate media have a rule that all guys have to be shown with a female to give the heteronormative impression to the public that this guy is “straight” even though everybody knows he’s a Queer boy in some cases and gossip about it online. I’m thinking specifically of some Latin musicians and actors. While writing this, a male Latin singer — who shall remain nameless — that I follow from time-to-time, was interviewed by TV Azteca. They played part of his new video. His new video is really no different than the old videos. It’s always the same old thing: Guy with female. Predictable. It shows him making out with the typical white Latina. Nothing new there. Then it shows him down on his knee (oh here we go with that tired and predictable routine) of asking her to marry him. Nothing new there. He opens up the box to the engagement ring. Nothing new there. She jumps up in the air with joy and hangs all over him. Nothing new there. My very reliable gaydar has told me for some time that this artist is a Queer boy. I’ve also observed his behaviour around other guys on other networks when he’s been interviewed en studio. I did a little research on him and found that he did a concert at a gay bar “to show that he supports the gay populace.” Might it be a little bit more than “supporting the gay populace?” Might it be because he’s a gay boy himself (Mr Closet Case)? And he doesn’t want to come out of the closet because he thinks it will hurt his career? So he only takes it so far as to say, “I support the gay populace.” I’ve not heard of any “straight” Latin artists who have gone out of their way to go to a gay bar to give a concert there or to do anything else there, have you?

When was the last time you saw two guys holding hands in a programme on your corporate media where the camera did rush off quickly? Yet the ubiquitous “straight” couples of tall-him and short-her holding hands and making out are shoved in our faces constantly. And of course there’s the hate for transgender people. So don’t come at me with this Brand LGBTTM nonsense that “we’ve accomplished so much now” bull shit and “we’re damn-near in Queer utopia.” It’s nonsense. It’s a lie when you look at most people’s lives and how they write their sex personal ads. In reality, little has been accomplished when I see all the closeted gay guys out there which is continuing to this day including right here in heteronormative and conservative San Francisco, the former Gay Mecca.

So reviewing class: Anytime you see “straight guys who actually suck dick,” keep in mind that the guy is not “straight.” He’s a liar. The very definition of “straight” is men going with and having sex with females. The “straight” guys I know have no interest in sucking dick. Hope this helps. Chau.—el barrio rosa


With Bi and Str8 guys the GF is always out of town

Gay “Assimilation:” Back to the 1950s

Brand LGBT(TM)

Brand LGBTTM: The pro-corporate, pro-mainstream and heteronormative branding of the gay community, making us more acceptable and palatable to the preferences and priorities of the in-your-face Heterosexual Mainstream Society.

Hola a todos. Our little local group of GLBTQs here in San Francisco got together last week as we do from time-to-time to catch up and talk about various topics. It’s usually something we all find important and not a pre-planned topic.

This time we talked about the widespread use of Brand LGBTTM. We’re referring to the cookie-cutter acronym “LGBT” that one sees everywhere (although not on pink barrio) and which is used worldwide. It’s as if this “LGBT” acronym was issued by a US congressional Declaration from on high and/or by some international governing body to be used throughout el mundo/the world. What was wrong with using GLBTQ in their thinking? Except for purposes of this article, I don’t use “LGBT” at all since it is ugly dishonesty and corporate branding. It indicates a revision of GLBTQ history. I and the amigos/amigas in my group use GLBTQ, including las lesbianas/the lesbians in our group. We’ve noticed that the conformist and heteronormative Brand LGBTTM is used worldwide especially by corporate websites when writing about, promoting, for the commercialisation of and the co-opting of the now-dead Gay Rights’ Movement. The movement was originally called the Gay Rights’ Movement. It was not called the Lesbian Rights’ Movement therefore the G should be first and not the L. Brand LGBTTM reflects the co-opting of the Gay Rights’ Movement by lesbians, and again, even the rewriting of the movements’ history. Also, conformist and heteronormative “LGBT” is not inclusive. It omits the Q at the end for “Queer” for some odd reason. Whoever created this Brand LGBTTM nonsense didn’t like the more radical Queers? How long before there’s a revision and they decide that the T is really not appropriate? As I wrote in this article, back in 1979 the movement was called The Gay and Lesbian Movement. Period. But Brand LGBTTM has even gone back into history and taken the name of a major march that took place in — where I used to live — the District of Columbia and renamed that march “The Lesbian and Gay March on Washington.” It wasn’t called that. It was called the Gay and Lesbian March on Washington. This is ugly, cheap and tawdry revisionism. The heteronormative Brand LGBTTM marketing acronym is really very dishonest because it gives top credit to lesbians for a movement where they were not the dominant group of the movement, but now giving them “top billing” and top priority in the acronym. I thought most people knew that gay guys were the denominate/activist group of the Gay and Lesbian Rights’ Movement.

So what’s the reason for Brand LGBTTM? Our group concluded that it’s heteronormative branding. The “L” is first in our opinion because lesbians are considered more acceptable than gay guys to “straights” and especially to “straight” men in our sexually dysfunctional heteronormative society. GLBTQs apparently love to cater to and please “straight” people — don’t ask me why — so that’s why they listed the “L” first. The thinking seems to be: Our society still has many problems with and prejudices against gay guys, but our society seems to see lesbians in a more positive way so (to please the “straights”) put them first in the acronym to cater to our bigoted, anti-gay heteronomative society. Of course it’s much more acceptable to see two females holding hands and kissing than seeing two gay guys holding hands and kissing, which many people would say they find repulsive. For example: Fucked-Up US Public: Gay Legal Rights Good; Gay Kissing Bad. Many people have no problem seeing two women kissing but they can’t bare to see two guys kissing. Yet the same people have no problem seeing two guys being violent with each other, beating each other up and/or killing each other and they’ll pay to watch that. But don’t show them two guys kissing. They can’t handle that. Sick-assed people. Even as children, no one blinks an eye seeing two little girls holding hands as amigas/friends. People say, “isn’t that cute?” But when two boys do the same thing they’re scolded, they’re not considered “cute.” They will be screamed at: “you two boys stop holding hands; boys don’t hold hands. Stop it!” No, boys are supposed to fight and beat each other up seems to be the preference/thinking. So Brand LGBTTM is a very sanitising acronym to cater to the “straights” to make being gay and lesbian all the more palatable to delicate them. Also, when the corporate media (are required to) show a same-gender couple kissing, the overwhelming majority of the time it’s predictably two females. Two guys kissing are rarely shown, and when that happens it’s only very briefly by comparison. While writing this article I glanced at my television and saw a very heteronormative ad from a corporate box store which I think pretends to be “gay-friendly?” It was all about dancing while trying to unload some item. I saw a guy and female (implying they were a “straight” couple) were dancing together wearing conformist black and gray clothing. Two females were dancing together holding hands, reinforcing what I said earlier about two females being “acceptable” to the general public. But you know what I didn’t see? Two guys holding hands and dancing. No, they just couldn’t bring themselves to show that. And yet wishful-thinking GLBTQ idiots have told us repeatedly that “gay is now mainstream.” Not on my television it isn’t. I don’t know what network you’re watching where that’s the case. All I see are heteronormative obnoxious in-your-face “straight” couples making out, fawning over each other, short needy-her looking up at tall-him with limpid eyes begging for his attention, him holding her chin going in for the beso/kiss, him and her holding hands and then the two having a major dysfunction.

My Question: Why do “straight” people get top priority/preference by pleasing and catering to them versus pleasing ourselves as GLBTQs? Did the idiots who came up with Brand LGBTTM not think of that? Fuck the “straights.” I don’t need their fucking approval for my sexuality. Nobody appointed them as “god.” What is wrong with GLBTQs who feel the need to boot lick, cater to and emulate the “straights” and be like them? Get some self confidence, damn it! Stop licking the boots of the “straight” community. Shouldn’t we GLBTQs please ourselves and be true to our history, rather than sanitising our history to accommodate “straight” people? I find it disgusting what has happened. And apparently most gay guys know how society still feels about them because as I’ve previously written, many gay guys (if not most) are labeling themselves “bi” (even though they’re not bisexual) in their personal sex ads on the site I call ClosetList and probably elsewhere. And they’re doing this worldwide. Of course there are genuine bi (bisexual) guys out there. But I’m not talking about them here. I’m talking about gay guys who are lying about their sexuality in their personal sex ads and calling themselves “bi.” Why are they doing this? As a way to appear more heteronormative and to give the impression of being more “masculine” than a gay guy because he is supposedly into females as well as guys. These days, it’s rare to see a guy use the word “gay” or even GWM (gay white male) in their ads on ClosetList.

Mi amigo/My friend has experience with gay phone sex and he’s told me repeatedly about the many guys who start out by saying “I’m bi” and then when mi amigo plays along and tries to pursue that in a phone sex conversation by casually asking the guy when was the last time he was with a “girl” or what type of “girls” he gets into. At that point, the supposed bi guy immediately hangs up on him. These supposed bi guys have no interest in talking about females because they’re really gay and they want to talk about gay sex. But they lie and put that “bi” label out there to falsely describe themselves to try to appear more manly, masculine and heteronormative as I wrote about here. They think bi sounds masculine and gay sounds feminine in their minds, even though there are millions of very masculine gay guys out there. But there are still negative connotations with the word “gay” even in the minds of many gay guys. It’s part of self-hate. The big lie here with gay guys dishonestly calling themselves bi is that human sexuality does not change so drastically where millions of gay guys all over the world miraculously became interested in females or “bi” nearly overnight. That just doesn’t happen. Human sexuality doesn’t work that way people. It does on ClosetList.

I’d like to talk about this a little bit more even though it’s not directly related to Brand LGBTTM, but it’s still connected to GLBTQs: On ClosetList, the category is called “men for men” but even in that category it’s rare to see any guy use the word “gay.” I mostly see “bi” or “WM” (white male). And WM is neutral and does not at all identify the sexuality of the guy so its as if they are in the closet even though in their sex ads they’re usually looking for gay sex. It’s as if most guys on CL are ashamed of the word gay, even today after all this time. Well, I shouldn’t say “even today” because as many people know we’re heading backwards very quickly. It won’t surprise mis amigos/my friends if the now-dead Gay Rights’ Movement will need to be started all over again at some point in the future. Mi amigo said: “I think this would be a horrible time to try to get a boyfriend or a partner.” Yes, I think it would be too; quite frustrating these days considering the lying and dishonesty one reads in gay personal sex ads. Not that “straight” ads are any different. They too are full of dishonesty and lies such as the closet case gay guys who are calling themselves “straight” and looking to suck dick and they “have a girl and she doesn’t know so need to be discreet.” I’ve read that countless times. In other words, he’s cheating on her. That’s a common theme on ClosetList. Most of the gay ads and phony bi ads are saturated with the words “discreet” and “down low,” which clearly imply that the guy thinks there’s something wrong with being gay and what he’s doing sexually otherwise he wouldn’t need to be “discreet” or “down low” (DL) about his behaviour. And/or he’s cheating on someone and doesn’t want them to find out. “Discreet” is usually code language for a closet case and going by the ads on ClosetList, most guys on there are still in the closet and that’s why I call that site ClosetList.

Back to Brand LGBTTM: Previously when I researched this, from what I read the “L” was first in Brand LGBTTM to show that the gay community supports women’s rights. Isn’t it a given that the gay community supports women’s right? Therefore, no need to put the L first. We also support trans rights but we don’t put the T first at all. I think my first explanation about this order of the letters is more accurate than the women’s rights explanation.

As some of us see it, Brand LGBTTM is unfortunate tacky commercialism and the entire world is using it. I and the people in our little group cringe every time we see that “LGBT” branding. It is indeed the “branding” of the now-dead Gay Rights’ Movement, and unfortunately many self-described “progressives” (who are really nothing but Democratic Party hacks and shills at s-election time) have fallen in lockstep with this and they use the cookie-cutter Brand LGBTTM whenever they write about GLBTQs topics. They do so to be conformist, because “everybody is doing it.” I would point out that genuine progressives are not conformists.

Unfortunately, the original Gay Rights’ Movement became corrupted by Brand LGBTTM and has lost itself with favour given to the preferences and priorities of the Heterosexual Establishment and what they want for the gay community, rather than what we GLBTQs want for ourselves. Chau.—el barrio rosa

Bi Now Means Masculine And Not Bisexual

With some GLBTQ progress having been made over the past decade, one would think that gay guys would be the most “out and proud” these days that they’ve ever been. But no, that’s not the case. Instead they’re running from the word “gay” and running from their gay sexual identity as if ashamed of both and as if gay is now a “bad word.” They’re running back in the closet and continuing to describe themselves as “discreet” (the opposite of “out and proud”) and “DL” (down low or closeted). Most gay guys are now writing “bi” and/or “be bi or masculine” in their sex personal ads. Is there something in the water worldwide causing this loco behaviour?

Did you know that “bi” now means masculine, and not bisexual? Yes, that’s how most gay guys are using the term “bi” to describe themselves. Recently in my article where I asked: What’s Wrong With Gay Dick?, I wrote about the thousands of gay guys all over the US and around the world who are today labeling themselves as “bi” in their gay personal sex ads even though they’re not bi. These are gay guys calling themselves “bi” and looking to suck dick but they’re usually only looking to suck “bi” or “straight/married” dick. Can someone explain to me how “bi” or “straight” dick is any different than gay dick? These guys don’t want to suck gay dick for some reason. Gay shame? They’re very specific that they want “bi” or “straight” dick. Then there are the “bi” bottoms who are looking to get fucked. The “bi bottom” descriptor is new. I’ve not seen that until recently and it’s very curious. Since the guy is looking to get fucked, why is it important to know that he is supposedly “bi?” As a bottom, does it matter that he supposedly fucks pussy on other occasions when in this case he’s the one looking to get fucked? Why not just say, “bottom looking to get fucked” and leave off the “bi” bull shit/lie? I think it’s because he’s trying to let everyone know that he’s a masculine bottom and not a feminine bottom because “bi” is now used to mean masculine.

As I said in that article (link above), all of these guys are not bi in the original sense of the word — who do they think they’re fooling? — because human sexuality does not change this drastically and with such a large segment of the population as seen in gay sex personal ads on the site I call ClosetList. As I’ve written before, it’s as if the gay community has completely flipped out. For example, does anyone believe that most of the gay guys in the former Gay Mecca of San Francisco are now bi? Who believes that? Nobody I’ve talked with believes it. I ran this by a very experienced psychologist-sexologist amigo of mine and when I told him about this he burst out laughing and shook his head (left to right) and said, “crazy world.” If one believes the majority of men-seeking-men sex ads on ClosetList, the so-called “gay community” in San Francisco is no longer gay (WTF?), or at least the majority of guys posting on ClosetList in San Francisco as well as the Bay Area under the Men-for-Men category are not gay. I honestly think this is a case of gay shame and internalised homophobia — we’ve made so much progress, haven’t we! [sarcasm intended] — which is really quite sad because I thought most gay guys had already worked through these repressive and gay-self-hate issues over the past decades. But apparently not. The gay community has been urged to “assimilate” (translation: go back in the closet) with the “straights.” And the ironic thing about this is that despite some GLBTQ progress having been made, one would think that even more gay guys would be “out and proud” today instead of ashamed of their gay sexual orientation and hiding behind the word “bi” to appear more heteronormative when they have zero interest in women. But that seems to be what’s happened. With more supposed GLBTQ “progress” has come going back into the closet and calling yourself “bi.”

The comments had closed for my article (linked above) and a few gay guys e-mailed me about that article. One gay guy said he had hooked up with two different guys in the past six months for sex who in their ad described themselves as “bi.” He said he pretended to be bi too even though he has no interest in women when he responded to them because they only wanted to hook up with another bi guy. He told me he played what he thought was the “bi role” and talked about watching pussy porn together and asked this alleged bi guy about the last time he fucked a chick. That didn’t go anywhere he said. The supposed “bi” guy he responded to showed no interest in talking about pussy or about chicks. Instead, he kept going back to gay sex and sucking dick. At that point, he (the guy who e-mailed me) stopped pushing the “bi” script/talk because it was a dead-end topic. Interesting. Another gay guy wrote me and said he calls himself bi but all he means by that is that he’s masculine and he thought that’s what bi meant. So I wrote him back asking, “you didn’t think bi meant bisexual which is the original meaning of the word? He responded, “No, I thought bi now meant masculine because so many guys are using bi in their personals and I don’t believe that many guys are bisexual.” Oh, so he doesn’t believe it either. He said he’s not into women. Then the fourth gay guy said the bi thing in gay personal sex ads is “all bull shit just like their dick size.” He wrote, “I’m sure you’ve seen 9″cut printed in their ad but their pic looks more like 5-6.” Yes, I have seen that. I think they’re using internet inches or maybe they began measuring their dick length from their shoulder blades or somewhere. Wherever they’re measuring from, it’s way off, just like most of the lies in their profiles.

Since I wrote that article, I saw one guy’s ad that read, “Legit bi guy…” in one major US city. Oh, “legit.” Does that mean that this guy has received some flak for calling himself bi — and other guys know he isn’t — and called him on it? The curious thing about his ad was that it came across as if he was bull shitting despite the “legit bi guy” title. In his ad he wrote: My girl — “my girl” is how he referred to her which is fairly common language for these fake-bi guys’ ads — is home. I’m bored and hanging out in my hotel room looking to hook up with a good-looking dude who’s into jacking to pussy porn. I thought: Well, if you’re a legit bi guy (as you claim) and really into pussy (or is it all a fantasy?), what are you do sitting in your hotel room wanting to jack off with another dude to pussy porn and not home with your “girl” and working on your “girl’s” pussy? Or are you really not into your “girl,” OR is there really no “girl” at all? Is this just all heteronormative fantasy like all these other fake-bi guys out there with their gay shame?

To be clear, I’m not talking about the real bi guys out there. This article is not about them. I know there are some genuine bisexual guys out there. But this is about gay guys who are on some heteronormative fantasy head trip and/or they’re just copying other guy’s ads who are using the word “bi” in their ad to mean they’re “masculine” or to appear more “straight” when they’re not into “girls” at all. One line I’ve seen in many fake-bi guy ads over the months is, “my girl is away.” The guy in the hotel room I just talked about in the previous paragraph has written many ads using that “my girl is away” line. I wrote about that too here awhile back. Judging by these ads, there are busloads of “girls” out of town. Mi amigo/My friend asked: Where do they all go that they are never with these fake-bi guys on ClosetList?

And I’ve noticed that many gay jocks think they have to say they’re bi so they come off as more masculine. It’s part of the obnoxious jock personae as they pretend to be “straight” and try to be heteronormative because they are ashamed to be gay and ashamed of the word “gay.”

Just like the obnoxious supposedly gay sports bar in San Francisco is ashamed of the Rainbow Flag. The Rainbow Flag is apparently “too gay” for these conservative, obnoxious, loud-screaming (closet case?) jocks obsessed over wealthy corporate sports teams. That bar doesn’t fly the Rainbow Flag except when they want to exploit GLBTQ tourists on Corporate Pride weekend (which in San Francisco has become nothing but a corporate commercial mostly attended by breeders/”straights”). Then their Rainbow Flag goes back into the closet the following Lunes/Monday until next year. When that bar opened a number of years ago, a local Queer boy astutely wrote, “The Gay Rights’ Movement ends at this bar.” That turned out to be absolutely true. It was around that time or a little after that the Gay Rights’ Movement died especially in now soul-less, lobotomised and techie San Francisco where GLBTQ activism is dead as — what remains of — the so-called “gay community” has become conservative. And conservatives sneer at and mock protesters and protesting, except when they want to protest something. Then they get their Rent-A-Mob out and protest.

Gracias to the guys who e-mailed me with their experiences. I appreciate it.

Summing up: Most bi gay guys are not bi. They’re merely using the word “bi” to make themselves sound more “masculine,” more jock and heteronormative with their anti-gay/DownLow/closeted feelings that they still haven’t worked through where they think there is something wrong with being gay and that one is more of a Real ManTM and masculine/macho if one deceives others and lies about one’s sexual orientation by giving the false impression that one has sex with some fictitious “girl.” As one of my commenters has said: We’re living in very strange times. Chau.—el barrio rosa

Gay “Assimilation:” Back to the 1950s

IMG_0023“Assimilate: To adopt the ways of another culture. To fully become part of a different society.”

UPDATE (2017): Why I no longer write about Queer topics, and why am I now using the word “Queer?” That’s because there’s no hierarchy or politics involved in the word “Queer” as opposed to the hierarchy of that “LGBT” nonsense that’s saturated all over the internet. Also, Queers (and the word Queer) make breeders nervous and we enjoy every minute of it. (smile)

Hola a todos. Some readers who read my article below (“Gay “Assimilation:” Back to the 1950s”) and my subsequent Queer articles after that have asked me via e-mail: Why are you no longer writing about Queer topics? Well, that’s because I don’t see any reason to. Why should I bother? I’ve written about Queer topics for years and it didn’t do any good. Nothing changed for the positive. There’s nothing else to say about it. Only a few people seem to care in the big scheme of things. As with some other topics I used to write about, I seem to be “fighting an uphill battle” or “a lost cause.” Several examples that come to mind explaining this and some of which overlap: I’ve become disgusted with what the Queer community has become and turned into. Today, they are mostly pro-corporatists, pro-Establishment, DISCREET (translation: closeted, as in the 1950s and before), mainstream, DISCREET, non-alternative, DISCREET, non-proudly radical, DISCREET shallow sheeple trying to emulate the mainstream breeders. They are the DISCREET opposite of who and what they were during the decades of the Gay and Lesbian Rights’ Movement.

1. Monitoring television programming, one would think that the entire world consists of breeders. One gets the impression there’s not one openly Queer person in el mundo/the world, other than that heteronormative, corporatist, pro-Establishment, Obamabot Ellen daily promoting silly, dumbed-down and “stupid-is-in” and making millions doing so. She didn’t care how many immigrants the Deporter-in-Chief had deported or how many breeders and Queers Mr Nobel Peace Prize had droned or killed in other parts of the world in his 8 wars as she gushed over him at every opportunity? Or is she oblivious to all that? And I know Anderson Cooper is an openly-Queer boy, but I’m making a point here. Even most of the (closeted) Queer people before network cameras pretend to be breeders. They refuse to come out of the closet and announce that they’re Queer. Despite some advances that have been made for Queers over the decades, those advances are not reflected in 99.9% of corporate network television programming. All the programming on the español language networks I monitor is breeder-based. I am so tired of seeing him fawning over her, him making out with her, him holding needy-her’s hand, him holding her chin, him playing with her hair, her running over to him for more attention with one foot up in the back (she’s perched on one foot) desperate for attention, and him doing other things with her, when it’s more than obvious to me and my reliable Queerdar that “him” is really a closeted Queer boy. Such as the breeder-based dating programme that started on TV Azteca recently in the afternoons. According to my Queerdar, I’ve seen one closet case Queer boy after the other on there wanting to date a female. (roll eyes). Is this stuff for real or is staged just to create a programme? Do they ever have real dates? I don’t know. Mi amigo/My Queer friend says the same about the closet cases on television. In all of the Latino/Hispano/mexicano community, I only know of TWO Queer boys that are out of the closet. Just TWO. That’s it. Those two are Ricky Martín (Enrique Martín Morales) and Christian Chávez (José Christian Chávez Garza). All the others are closet cases despite the public being fed the wishful-thinking lie that “gay is now mainstream.” Yeah sure it is. That’s why I constantly read anti-Queer comments on political message forums and YouTube videos and everywhere else. “Gay is so mainstream” that’s why Queers are saturated all over my television. NOT!

I don’t watch the English-language networks but I would guess that they’re no different. I suspect 99% of the programming on those networks is breeder-based too. In the last few months I’ve read about one or two of those corporate networks planning to do a “gay programme” or bring back one they did in the past. Then some shallow, corporatist Queer organisation jumped up and down in celebration about this. Get. A. Grip. As some of us see it, it’s nothing but a “flash in the pan” in the big scheme of things and nothing to get excited about. Too often with these “gay programmes,” or when they feature a person who is supposedly Queer, they merely show stereotypical Queer guys and lesbians to continue outdated stereotypes. I’ll get exited when corporate networks changed their programming to where a large segment of their programming is Queer-based. I’m not holding my breathe for that to happen. But these little “token” gay programmes are meaningless in the big scheme of things as far as some of us are concerned.

2. 99.9% of the public — including Queers — use that cookie-cutter “LGBT” acronym nonsense because that’s what they see all over the internet. Even the anti-Queer far-right use “LGBT.” Some of us can’t stand the “LGBT” nonsense for several reasons:

1) to begin with, it leaves out Queers entirely…whatever nutball dreamed it up was prejudice against Queers.

2) “LGBT” is the hijacking of the original Gay and Lesbian Rights’ Movement by lesbians when they were not the dominant group of the moment so why are they getting “top-billing?” and

3) some people are asking: “What’s wrong with you gay guys, why are you giving “top billing” to lesbians? Why are you allowing that when you did most of the work during the Gay and Lesbian Rights’ Movement? Agreed. Yes, I fail to understand why lesbians get top billing. That makes no sense to me. I’ve read that the “L” was put first by one of those corporatist gay media organisations because lesbians were feeling neglected. (roll eyes) Oh the poor things. Well if their ass had done more during the Gay and Lesbian Movement they wouldn’t feel neglected. They deserve what they get, which is second billing as in GLBTQ, if one must use any acronym. That’s the way it should be written: GLBTQ. But personally, I’m starting to use the word Queer instead of any letters since this topic and acronyms feel like a lost cause.

3. The gay community to me and other Queers now seems dead and closeted. As I write in the article below, they’ve gone from proudly-radical and “out and proud” to proudly discreet which means either you’re closeted and/or cheating on somebody (or both). Looking at personal sex ads (on the site I call ClosetList), most gay guys today are calling themselves “bi” when they’re really gay. They think that “bi” makes them sound more like a breeder, more masculine, manly and macho even though they have no interest at all in pussy or in females but in today’s world lying and deception are in especially in personal sex ads where hardly anything is real about those. Calling oneself “bi” when one is really gay is a form of internalised homophobia because one is ashamed of the word “gay.” Didn’t most Queers work through this years ago during the decades of the Gay and Lesbian Rights’ Movement? Apparently not! And some of us see a major rise in internalised homophobia in the Queer commmunity today. It’s really pathetic what the Queer community has turned into. Mi amigo/My friend said the other day: “I get the impression that most Queer people are back in the closet.” That’s the impression I get too in the former Gay Mecca of San Francisco.

4. Just like with the breeders, from what we’re seeing most Queers today are wearing all-black or black and gray. What happened to the pretty Rainbow Flag colours, Queer boys? Today, it seems that most Queers consider the Rainbow Flag “too gay.” Yet another example of what I mean by going back in the closet with internalised homophobia. It’s as if Queers consider wearing colour an indicator that they’re Queer rather than a breeder and we can’t have that! No, the breeders are wearing all-black and/or black and gray and looking like white nationalists so the conformist Queers think they must do the same in order to “fit in” and “assimilate” with the breeders. Translation: Going back in the closet. Ugh.

5. In this new tech-zombie San Francisco, mi amigo (a Queer boy) has told me repeatedly about how he has made the mistake of fleetingly glancing at another guy on the sidewalk (no one cruises anyone anymore) — who apparently turns out to be a breeder — and the guy gives mi amigo a very disapproving, snarling angry look as if he’s about to say, “don’t you look at me you faggot.” Sigh. This anti-Queer behaviour did not happen in the San Francisco of the Gay Mecca. This has happened in the new Breeder Mecca and here which has taken over and replaced the former Gay Mecca. I should point out that people who are secure with themselves and their sexuality would not respond the way these breeder basura respond just because another guy happened to fleetingly look at them. Los pendejos.

So in conclusion, to me this all seems like an uphill battle and I’m tired of it and tired of wasting my time writing about it. All I see are breeder people (making out), or Queers (both guys and females) trying to pretend to be breeders and heteronormative so that no one will possibly think that they are Queer because we know how awful that is, right? (More internalised homophobia.) In San Francisco’s Castro, the former gay mecca, I now do a double-take when I see two guys kissing or making out because it is now so rare to see that. I even stop to watch briefly and appreciate them because it’s such a rare sight to see now here in The Breeder Mecca full of fleets of baby strollers. (Have these breeders never heard of birth control of any kind?) These days I expect to see breeders kissing or making out or nearly uncontrollably having sex on the sidewalk (as if they just met) in The Castro. The Castro has been ruined. The Castro today is nothing like it was when I moved here during the height of the Gay Mecca days. Get this: Can you believe that a group of Queers a year or so ago started a project to Queer The Castro? It hasn’t worked, but that’s how bad it’s gotten here with prudish and in some cases anti-Queer breeders taking over The Castro. It used to be that Queer boys and Queer couples walked by my window talking. Now it’s breeders with loud and/or screaming children walking by my window talking. And it seems to be a requirement with breeders that he has to be 3-4 feet taller than her — from my research that’s her requirement — and she has to be submissive to him as if she’s living in the Victorian era where females are supposed to be submissive and subservient to guys (in order to get his attention that needy and high-maintenance her constantly demands from him).

Upon reflection, it seems that Queers will have to have their rights eroded or removed completely to get them out of the closet again and off their electronic leashes and to return to the vigilance and activism of the decades of the former Gay and Lesbian Rights’ Movement. But from what I see of the apathetic and closeted Queer community today, I’m not holding my breathe that any of that is about to happen anytime soon. Because the attitude of most Queers today seems to be, “I’m like whatever” and “Where’s my phone?” Chau.—el barrio rosa

Here’s the original article, “Gay “Assimilation:” Back to the 1950s:”

Hola a todos. Some of us aren’t joking when we talk about people going back to the 1950s. Following the US Supreme Court’s ruling legalising same-gender/gay marriage here in The Cesspool/the US/Los Estados Unidos, the national gay and lesbian organisations who serve as self-appointed omnipotent authorities on all matters GLBTQ urged us to “assimilate.” Translation: Adopt to the ways of the heterosexual/heteronormative culture to fully blend in with them.

Why would we want to do that?!

After thinking about their call for “assimilation,” some of us strongly disagreed with it because “assimilation” is what GLBTQs were doing back in the 1950s and before the now-dead Gay Rights’ Movement began. And again, who would want to do that? Apparently a lot of people.

Some examples:

In the 1950s, gay people were thought of and referred to as “abnormal.” For sometime now many gay guys have been writing in their personal sex ads: “Please be normal” or “I’m normal.” That implies that the guy who wrote the ad is of the 1950s mindset and believes that some gay guys are “abnormal,” otherwise he wouldn’t be looking for a “normal” guy. I first noticed this “normal” nonsense awhile back but since then more and more guys are using it in their ads. The people who use this “be normal” language never say what they mean by it. Is it code for conservative? I suspect it means not the least bit “alternative,” would be my guess. Whatever the fuck “normal” means, who wants to be “normal?” “Normal” is Boring.

In the 1950s, gay people cruised each other discreetly and covertly out of the corner of their eyes so as to not be caught cruising a person of the same gender and being detected as being Queer. Here in 2016, literally thousands and thousands of gay guys — nearly every personal sex ad I see — all over the US are referring to themselves as “discreet” and/or they’re looking for “discreet” and “completely discreet,” and/or “DL” (Down Low = Closet Case). Others write, “This is just between you and me; nobody else will know; it’s our secret.” WTF? I’d like to say this to these guys who write this shit: You’re in Los Ángeles, Manhattan/NYC and San Francisco so who the fuck cares what you do sexually or with whom? Or are you cheating on your partner and don’t want your partner to know? You write as if you’re in some small hick town with prudish prying eyes yet you’re in a major city where no one gives a fuck what you do. Important note to GLBTQs: “Discreet” is the opposite of Pride, as in Gay Pride, you know that we marched for and celebrated over decades? Or have you deliberately erased all of that from your memory too in favour of being conformists? (Related: The “Discreet” Gay Guys in New York City and The “Discreet” Gay Guys).

What the fuck has happened to the gay community?

The Castro of the Gay Mecca Days had lots of cruising, gay guys hanging out and talking with each other and there was a sense of community, although cliquish at times. We even had a spot called Hibernia Beach. Today, I see no cruising and very few conversations between people — most are on their phones — in The Castro. There’s no sense of community. It’s a very different place today. And frankly it’s impossible to have “mutual cruising” (two people showing some interest in each other) when most people can’t take their eyes off their fucking smartphone stupidphone screen long enough to see who’s around them. Look up!!! The “hot” guy you’re desperately searching for on those sex apps just walked by you but you didn’t see him because your face in buried in that screen. “Never take your eyes off that screen, San Francisco!” Ugh.

The 1950s were very conservative. Today in 2016, the gay community is very conservative and pro-Establishment, the opposite of who they were during the proudly-radical and alternative Gay Rights’ Movement days. I forget where I read it but I read recently that, “Gay guys love Hillary Clinton.” Pathetic. One would hope that gay guys would have higher standards than that imperialistic piece of work — although upon reflection they fell for their “messiah” Obama too — and what is there to love about that lying sack Hillary? Or is it that partisan “D” next to her name? I remember when a trans activist interrupted your “messiah” Obama en la casa blanca/the white house and the room full of gay guys (mostly) cheered their Obama and refused to give any support to the trans activist. Their pro-Establishment/Obamabot behaviour was fucking disgusting. What happened to your keen bull shit detectors that you had for decades, gay community? Or have you retired that too in order to be Establishment conformists so as to “assimilate?” I’ve seen some personal sex ads where a gay guy proudly wrote, “I’m not the least bit alternative.” The gay community has abandoned “proudly radical and alternative” and become very conformist just like the 1950s were very conformist.

In the 1950s, sex and nudity were viewed through conservative, prudish eyes. It’s the same today. A few years back the gay community in San Francisco led the campaign for a city-wide nudity ban authored by a gay prudish conservative, heteronormative, pro-Establishment piece of basura charading as a “Democrat.” During that nasty and heated campaign, some gay guys — who had been the subject of anti-gay bullying in their past — were seen and heard making fun of and bullying the 2-3 harmless naked guys who bothered nobody and who hung out around The Castro (mainly in the Jane Warner Plaza. These anti-nudist gay bullies seemed to forget or never knew that The Castro had a long history of nudity. Sadly, nudity is a thing of the past in today’s completely sanitised and conservative Castro barrio which has been made “Family-Friendly” complete with regularly scheduled musical sing-alongs for the breeding “straight” basura and their children at the local theatre. It’s like being in Walnut Creek, California. Today, some gay prudes whine about the gay sex videos shown in some gay bars on the rare occasion in that they’re “too explicit.” Los chicos: No one is forcing you to watch the sex video. You’re free to pivot your head in another direction and look elsewhere or leave the bar, you prudish assholes. Why don’t los pendejos go back to the conservative, prudish hick town hell hole they fled from when they came here rather than continuing to turn San Francisco into that? (Related: Sexual Freedom and Revolution). Also, for years the erotica/sex stores in The Castro have been required to cover up body part images (with white stickers) on the front of their sex video covers in their store front window for being “too explicit” — think 1950s or before — after complaints to the cops from prudish-asshole (gay) residents of The Castro. You might think I’m making this up but I’m not. You can contact the stores and they’re confirm it. The Castro of the Gay Mecca days didn’t cover up anything, fortunately.

What the fuck has happened to the gay community?

Does anybody remember what became known as “politically-correct language” which seems to have become abandoned and despised by most people today due to the right-wing’s whining about it. It’s always good to cater to the right-wing, don’t you think? [sarcasm intended]. In the 1950s, “politically-correct language” was unheard of. In 2016, many, if not most, GLBTQs in catering to the right-wing — who nearly always get their way — have completely abandoned the politically-correct language that they used for years. Today they don’t seem to care who they offend by what they say especially as to their personal preferences (for example: “no fats or fems” seen in gay personal sex ads). Los chicos: there are better ways of saying that without sounding like an asshole. For example:

Instead of saying “no fats,” you could say “I prefer a w/h proportion (weight and height proportion) guy.”
Instead of saying “no fems,” you could say “I prefer a masculine guy.”

That shouldn’t offend anyone. It’s a little bit more typing for you but what’s a little bit more typing when you likely spend hours bent over typing on your smartphone stupidphone and you think nothing of that.

In the 1950s, many gay guys were marrying females to hide their gay sexuality and to follow The Family’s ScriptTM for them as well as heteronormative societal pressure from friends and family. Many gay guys have been married to females for decades and today some gay guys are still marrying females to hide their gay identity and to follow The Family’s ScriptTM. This is despite our repeatedly being told that “Gay Is Now Mainstream”. One wouldn’t think that gay guys would still be marrying females to use as “cover” if they really believed this “gay is now mainstream” nonsense. (Related: Closeted Gay Guys Moving Into San Francisco’s Castro). I was watching a music video the other day with mi amigo and he said about the musician in the video, “that guy is a Queer boy.” I thought so too. Then I did a little bit of research on him and found out that he has a wife. A wife? And I saw a picture of them together. I told mi amigo. He said, “ah, another Queer boy married to a female to hide his real sexual identity. I guess that problem will never end.” Not when society is rushing back to the Dark Ages it won’t.

The gay community used to be proudly radical/alternative-looking in outward appearance (earrings, hair styles and clothing). Today, it’s closer to the 1950s with conformity than the Gay Mecca years of radical and alternative. Unfortunately, that’s all mostly been sanitised for conformity so as to fit in with, blend in with and “assimilate” with the bland and boring cookie-cutter “straights” (dominant tall-him and submissive short-her). I remember when — what seemed like — everyone in The Castro was wearing bling earrings. Bling was all over the place — it looked good — and it wasn’t that long ago. That was a short-lived fad. Although I’m pleased to see many Latinos/Hispanos with bling earrings/earplugs on the television channels I monitor. But today, it’s rare for me to see a guy from earrings of any kind in The Castro. It’s so rare that I do a double-take when I see it or anything that reminds me of the proudly-radical and alternative San Francisco. Remember the coloured handkerchiefs that gay guys wore as code? They’re gone.

Since around the time of this call/proclamation for “assimilation” from the national gay and lesbian organisations, the (insecure) gay community has done their utmost to eat “straight” ass and sanitise themselves for the “straights” so as to “assimilate” with them to get their acceptance and approval. Ugh. Personally speaking, except in an employment situation where it may be required, I don’t change my appearance to be accepted by anybody. Either accept me as I am or fuck off. That’s the way I feel about it. I’m not about to change my appearance or who I am as a person to be accepted by or approved by any “straight” basura. I don’t care what they think. I don’t need their approval for anything I do.

Again, what has happened to the (insecure) gay community?

It’s as if they’ve gone completely loco. I don’t have the patience for this “assimilation” bull shit or this desire to go back to the 1950s or before (Dark Ages).

In talking with some locals about this call for “assimilation,” some have asked: How many gays and lesbians have gone back into the closet because of the hetero-invasion of San Francisco (Castro and Upper Market specifically) where one feels like a minority again in one’s own former-gay-mecca neighbourhood for the first time in decades? That’s because the majority population around one is mostly “straight,” or it feels that way much of the time these days depending upon where one is. It’s a climate where gay boys and others don’t feel comfortable being out of the closet in their own neighbourhood just like in the 1950s. And anti-GLBTQ remarks and anti-GLBTQ looks are on the rise in San Francisco’s Castro. It’s history repeating itself and yet many GLBTQs think that “all has been accomplished.” Idiots.

So why didn’t the corporatist basura that run these GLBTQ national organisations not foresee this outcome? Possibly because they’ve been too busy eating corporate ass for years (that of major league national corporate sports teams and serving as shills for the corporate and thoroughly corrupt undemocratic Democratic Party and their imperialistic neocon “messiah” Obama, whose policies overall have been to the right of illegitimate George W Bush).

The above are some examples of how the gay community has “assimilated” back to the 1950s. If you think of other examples, you can list them in the comments until they close. Gracias.

From what I can tell, the gay community’s decades-long activism has been replaced by two things: their smartphone stupidphone addiction — that seems to be all that matters to them anymore — and by being obnoxious corporate sports “jocks” as they do their best to emulate the macho (drunk) “straight” guys. I guess the gay community thinks that being tech zombies makes them look “cool, hip and smart-looking.” It’s all about image. But why would they want to be seen as “smart” when stupid is in? And owning items that begin with the word “smart” doesn’t make stupid people smart. But in all other ways that I can think of, the gay community have become very regressive (despite their tech addiction) in going back to another era, and that era led to the need for the now-dead Gay Rights’ Movement.

Looking back in time, this “assimilation” nonsense is not at all new for Queers and it’s certainly not positive. It’s what Queers/GLBTQs have been doing for generations. Some of us just find it very short-sighted, sad and disgusting that these wealthy corporate GLBTQ organisations with their exorbitant executive salaries and the corporatist idiots that run them want us essentially returning to the closet and eating “straight” ass. That’s what it amounts to. They want us “assimilating” — well fuck that mierda! — and welcoming breeder “straights” with their screaming babies and gigantic baby strollers to our neighbourhoods to change them so that “straights” are comfortable here, even though “straights” have the entire world to be “comfortable” in. The “straights” don’t go out of their way to change their areas to accommodate us or make us feel “comfortable” where they are the dominant group. Not at all. And if “straights” are not “comfortable” in a gay area as it is, their ass is free to leave anytime they want. Many of us question why the fuck they’re here to begin with? Are they really closet cases? Is that why some “straights” go to gay bars? WTF? They’ve come to gay areas with a very specific conservative agenda — to take it over — and to change the gay area to the way they want it with the help of conservative GLBTQs: the assholes, who prefer to live among wealthy/white young “straight” couples rather than live among non-wealthy and poor Queers/couples. I never knew that the “straights” and what they want had/have priority over GLBTQs in our gay areas. That’s what it amounts to. That was quite a revelation to me when I realised that’s what was going on many years ago when the sanitising of San Francisco’s Castro began.

In my opinion and in the opinion of the people I’ve talked with, after giving it much thought we all agree that this proclamation for “assimilation” has completely backfired. Chau.—el barrio rosa

UPDATE (enero/January 2018):

Yeah, how is that “gay assimilation” shit working about now? Mi amigo found this article (below) and as soon as he brought it up I said, “Oh that idiot. I remember him and that pathetic story. I guess his ‘gay conversion to being straight’ didn’t work, eh? I guess pussy didn’t ‘cure’ him the way the anti-gay gay conversion sites lie and claim it does:”

This Gay Mormon Man Who Got Famous For Marrying A Straight Woman Is Getting Divorced
“The couple is now apologizing to the LGBT community for how the “publicity of our supposedly successful marriage” has been “used to bully others.”
Josh Weed, who made headlines in 2012 for coming out as a gay Mormon man in a straight marriage, announced Thursday that he and his wife, Lolly, are getting divorced.”

After pumping out 4 children — trying to prove how supposedly straight he was ?? — one still in a stroller. If he had come out to begin with as a Queer boy that he is and stop lying to himself, he wouldn’t be in this mess with upcoming child support payments, etc. Is he still in that Latter Day Saints church? Get out of it! They are one of the worst Christian denominations around. A bunch of fucking bigots. Religion — especially fundamentalists — can really fuck up people’s lives.


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Arte en lienzo Lámina - Bandera Transgénero Canvas Print

La Bandera Transgénero
The Transgender Flag

This is the flag
they refuse to fly at
Harvey Milk Plaza as well as on
the balcony of San Francisco City Hall

Hola. I hadn’t planned to write anymore about this but I was talking with an amigo the other day and he mentioned Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend and said: I wonder how many people plan on wasting their dinero/money by coming to that this year? I said: I don’t know. It’s nothing like it was. I told him I hadn’t planned to even talk about it this year considering the corporate event it has become, but I’ll ask on pink barrio. So I’m wondering if you’re planning to come to the New Conservative, Lobomotised, Techie San Francisco for Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend later this month, junio/June 2015? It’s the last Domingo/Sunday this month. The event is officially called SF Pride. But as of last year I and mis amigos/my friends began calling it Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend since that seems to more accurately reflect the reality based on the thousands of gay personal sex ads we’ve read in major US cities and continue to read written by closet-case gay guys with gay shame. These guys describe themselves as “discreet,” “down-low” and some saying “closeted, not out” (here in 2015) and “straight-acting.” Nearly every ad in the men-seeking-men category on the site I call ClosetList has the word “discreet” in it.

“Discreet” is the opposite of Proud and Pride, as in Gay Pride

As I’ve written many times but since this may be your first time to pink barrio, the only reason a gay guy would be “discreet” is if he is ashamed of his gay sexuality and/or he’s cheating on someone and doesn’t want that person to know. “Discreet” means trying to hide something and keeping something secretive. Well, keeping one’s sexuality secretive is called being in the closet. That’s not Gay Pride.

I started to notice this nonsense after GLBTQs were given the orders by those useless corporate GLBTQ organisations — who with their bloated executive salaries serve as Democratic Party hacks and shills and Obamabots — to assimilate with the “straights.” This was around the time of the US Supreme Court’s same-gender marriage ruling. Unfortunately, many GLBTQs misunderstood the assimilation order and mistook that as a signal to go back in the closet, become conservative and heteronormative. In other words, be as much like those precious “straights” as possible in one’s desperate and dire attempt to be accepted by them.

I’ve noticed that the heteronormative “discreet,” closet-case gay guys want nothing to do with the more feminine gay guys. Some gay guys (especially the self-described jocks) describe themselves as bisexual presumably because they think that sounds more macho/masculine than calling themselves gay (with their gay shame), however I never see their ads/pics in the men seeking women category of ClosetList. They’re only in the men seeking men category. Also in many ads written by gay guys that I’ve read they say, “No fems” along with “No fats.” I understand personal sexual turn-ons but really! I especially feel sympathy these days for the more feminine gay guys because of continued rejection they receive from these obnoxious jocks who — from my experience with them — may look polished and buffed on the outside but it’s their fucked-up personality and head-trip that needs the work and a lot of it. From my experience with them, they can’t talk. They often have no social skills at all. I often think that these techie sex apps are for those insipid people without social skills and their inability to talk with people.

Now keep in mind por favor that these people I’m talking about who are “discreet” and “down-low” are not in some small hick town with busy-bodied prying eyes as one might think. No, they’re in major cities where no one gives a fuck what they do sexually or with whom. They’re anonymous, but Manhattan (as in New York City) is full of closet cases. Who would have thought that?! And the former Gay Mecca of San Francisco has no shortage of them either. Loco./Crazy.

So I and amigos are wondering how many people plan to come to — what should be called — Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend later this month in San Francisco? The event these days is nothing but a big corporate advertisement called a parade. Last year’s SF Pride was thoroughly corporate and it was more “straight” than gay. So not only are “straights” hell-bent on taking over nice Queer areas and going to gay bars (WTF is that about?) in major cities and changing them to the way they want them, but now they’re taking over the so-called Pride Parade too. And SF Pride has become sanitised and so-called family-friendly presumably to genuflect to those delicate “straights”/conservatives (UGH!). It’s nothing like it used to be during the height of the Gay Mecca days, so why would anyone want to come here and see this thing?

Just so you know, if you’re planning to come to the New Conservative, Lobotomised, Techie San Francisco don’t expect things to be as they were. This city has changed drastically due to the techie invasion and the San Francisco Oligarchy (some thoroughly corrupt politicians working for their corporate owners). If you’re hoping to speak with a local resident, good luck with that. Many local residents — especially in the stupidphone/smartphone-addicted Castro — are hunched over, squinting at and fucking with that toy cemented to their hand that they’re distracted by and addicted to 24/7. But if you come here and happen to see the rare person looking up and aware of their surroundings and not on a stupidphone, you might consider talking with them.

Again, if you’re planning to waste your el dinero/money by coming here and if you’re expecting to see the San Francisco that you’ve heard about for decades, I’m sorry but you won’t see that city because that city is gone unfortunately. Fin. The End. That city has been evicted to Oakland and elsewhere. Yes, San Francisco has done a 180 from its former alternative and proudly-radical past. There are no shortage of examples of that but I’ll list one: The petty, conservative, local hateful totalitarian merchants group refuses to fly the Transgender Flag at Harvey Milk Plaza of all places!, and that flag pole is on public property. El alcalde/the mayor also refuses to fly la Bandera Transgénero/the Transgender Flag from the balcony of City Hall. So I’m displaying the flag on this page in protest of these basura around here and also because I like the Transgender Flag (it’s a very pretty flag, don’t you think?). But as someone noted in a comment on another article:

“the mayor refused to fly the transgender flag from city hall but he has no trouble flying any other flag he wants to fly”

True. Then one of my nice commenters responded to that by saying:

The merchants groups all were a part of that as well…
As a trans person, the fiasco over the flag was when I finally decided SF is dead. I’m outta here – seriously considering heading for Oregon (Eugene would be nice – not many yuppies there from what I hear).

Yes, I understand. It saddens me to even think about it. When I moved to San Francisco during the height of the now-fading Gay Mecca days, I never thought that the San Francisco that I loved would some day turn into the conservative city it has become with the help and complicity of the now-conservative GBLTQs. What the fuck happened to them? Today, social activism has been abandoned and is sneered at in favour of conservatism and corporatism. Also, where I live used to be mostly gay. Today it’s mostly “straight” breeders and I don’t think any of them have ever heard of condoms or birth control. Everybody around here has squeezed out at least two babies it seems. The place is overrun with babies/children and condominium-sized strollers. Clearly, overpopulation is not a concern to these self-entitled and self-absorbed people. It’s all about them and their pretentious focus on superficial and shallow status-symbol materialism. That’s the opposite of the former alternative and proudly-radical city that I moved to and loved.

I’ve heard some San Franciscans say that SF Pride is essentially becoming Straight Pride. Some brief history: For decades on one particular San Francisco corporate website the conservatives/anti-gay “straights” have whined in the comments every time SF Pride comes around that they (the “straights”) don’t have a straight pride day. It was pointed out probably hundreds of times to these anti-gay/conservative bigots that every day is “straight” pride day. That’s especially true in office settings where there’s no shortage of family pictures displayed showing the wife and the husband and their los niños/their children for everyone to see their “straight” family. They’re very in-your-face with their “straight” sexuality while they complain about GLBTQs being in-your-face with our sexuality. Fucking hypocrites!

But if you’re planning to come to the big corporate advertisement tourist-event known as SF Pride, or what I and others call Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend, leave a friendly comment por favor. Or if you plan to stay home in this dismal economy, that might be a better idea. Chau.—el barrio rosa

UPDATE (el 10 de junio 2015): I read last night that a new US-national corporate chain is trying to quickly open at Castro and Market and they said, “We’re trying to open in time for Pride and will have a float in the parade.” Let me rewrite that to reflect reality: “We’re trying to open in time to exploit Gay Shame-Gay Discreet Day and we will have a moving corporate ad on wheels in this corporate parade with all the other corporate ads.”


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