Hola. I hadn’t planned to write anymore about this but I was talking with an amigo the other day and he mentioned Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend and said: I wonder how many people plan on wasting their dinero/money by coming to that this year? I said: I don’t know. It’s nothing like it was. I told him I hadn’t planned to even talk about it this year considering the corporate event it has become, but I’ll ask on pink barrio. So I’m wondering if you’re planning to come to the New Conservative, Lobomotised, Techie San Francisco for Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend later this month, junio/June 2015? It’s the last Domingo/Sunday this month. The event is officially called SF Pride. But as of last year I and mis amigos/my friends began calling it Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend since that seems to more accurately reflect the reality based on the thousands of gay personal sex ads we’ve read in major US cities and continue to read written by closet-case gay guys with gay shame. These guys describe themselves as “discreet,” “down-low” and some saying “closeted, not out” (here in 2015) and “straight-acting.” Nearly every ad in the men-seeking-men category on the site I call ClosetList has the word “discreet” in it.
“Discreet” is the opposite of Proud and Pride, as in Gay Pride
As I’ve written many times but since this may be your first time to pink barrio, the only reason a gay guy would be “discreet” is if he is ashamed of his gay sexuality and/or he’s cheating on someone and doesn’t want that person to know. “Discreet” means trying to hide something and keeping something secretive. Well, keeping one’s sexuality secretive is called being in the closet. That’s not Gay Pride.
I started to notice this nonsense after GLBTQs were given the orders by those useless corporate GLBTQ organisations — who with their bloated executive salaries serve as Democratic Party hacks and shills and Obamabots — to assimilate with the “straights.” This was around the time of the US Supreme Court’s same-gender marriage ruling. Unfortunately, many GLBTQs misunderstood the assimilation order and mistook that as a signal to go back in the closet, become conservative and heteronormative. In other words, be as much like those precious “straights” as possible in one’s desperate and dire attempt to be accepted by them.
I’ve noticed that the heteronormative “discreet,” closet-case gay guys want nothing to do with the more feminine gay guys. Some gay guys (especially the self-described jocks) describe themselves as bisexual presumably because they think that sounds more macho/masculine than calling themselves gay (with their gay shame), however I never see their ads/pics in the men seeking women category of ClosetList. They’re only in the men seeking men category. Also in many ads written by gay guys that I’ve read they say, “No fems” along with “No fats.” I understand personal sexual turn-ons but really! I especially feel sympathy these days for the more feminine gay guys because of continued rejection they receive from these obnoxious jocks who — from my experience with them — may look polished and buffed on the outside but it’s their fucked-up personality and head-trip that needs the work and a lot of it. From my experience with them, they can’t talk. They often have no social skills at all. I often think that these techie sex apps are for those insipid people without social skills and their inability to talk with people.
Now keep in mind por favor that these people I’m talking about who are “discreet” and “down-low” are not in some small hick town with busy-bodied prying eyes as one might think. No, they’re in major cities where no one gives a fuck what they do sexually or with whom. They’re anonymous, but Manhattan (as in New York City) is full of closet cases. Who would have thought that?! And the former Gay Mecca of San Francisco has no shortage of them either. Loco./Crazy.
So I and amigos are wondering how many people plan to come to — what should be called — Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend later this month in San Francisco? The event these days is nothing but a big corporate advertisement called a parade. Last year’s SF Pride was thoroughly corporate and it was more “straight” than gay. So not only are “straights” hell-bent on taking over nice Queer areas and going to gay bars (WTF is that about?) in major cities and changing them to the way they want them, but now they’re taking over the so-called Pride Parade too. And SF Pride has become sanitised and so-called family-friendly presumably to genuflect to those delicate “straights”/conservatives (UGH!). It’s nothing like it used to be during the height of the Gay Mecca days, so why would anyone want to come here and see this thing?
Just so you know, if you’re planning to come to the New Conservative, Lobotomised, Techie San Francisco don’t expect things to be as they were. This city has changed drastically due to the techie invasion and the San Francisco Oligarchy (some thoroughly corrupt politicians working for their corporate owners). If you’re hoping to speak with a local resident, good luck with that. Many local residents — especially in the stupidphone/smartphone-addicted Castro — are hunched over, squinting at and fucking with that toy cemented to their hand that they’re distracted by and addicted to 24/7. But if you come here and happen to see the rare person looking up and aware of their surroundings and not on a stupidphone, you might consider talking with them.
Again, if you’re planning to waste your el dinero/money by coming here and if you’re expecting to see the San Francisco that you’ve heard about for decades, I’m sorry but you won’t see that city because that city is gone unfortunately. Fin. The End. That city has been evicted to Oakland and elsewhere. Yes, San Francisco has done a 180 from its former alternative and proudly-radical past. There are no shortage of examples of that but I’ll list one: The petty, conservative, local hateful totalitarian merchants group refuses to fly the Transgender Flag at Harvey Milk Plaza of all places!, and that flag pole is on public property. El alcalde/the mayor also refuses to fly la Bandera Transgénero/the Transgender Flag from the balcony of City Hall. So I’m displaying the flag on this page in protest of these basura around here and also because I like the Transgender Flag (it’s a very pretty flag, don’t you think?). But as someone noted in a comment on another article:
“the mayor refused to fly the transgender flag from city hall but he has no trouble flying any other flag he wants to fly”
True. Then one of my nice commenters responded to that by saying:
The merchants groups all were a part of that as well…
As a trans person, the fiasco over the flag was when I finally decided SF is dead. I’m outta here – seriously considering heading for Oregon (Eugene would be nice – not many yuppies there from what I hear).
Yes, I understand. It saddens me to even think about it. When I moved to San Francisco during the height of the now-fading Gay Mecca days, I never thought that the San Francisco that I loved would some day turn into the conservative city it has become with the help and complicity of the now-conservative GBLTQs. What the fuck happened to them? Today, social activism has been abandoned and is sneered at in favour of conservatism and corporatism. Also, where I live used to be mostly gay. Today it’s mostly “straight” breeders and I don’t think any of them have ever heard of condoms or birth control. Everybody around here has squeezed out at least two babies it seems. The place is overrun with babies/children and condominium-sized strollers. Clearly, overpopulation is not a concern to these self-entitled and self-absorbed people. It’s all about them and their pretentious focus on superficial and shallow status-symbol materialism. That’s the opposite of the former alternative and proudly-radical city that I moved to and loved.
I’ve heard some San Franciscans say that SF Pride is essentially becoming Straight Pride. Some brief history: For decades on one particular San Francisco corporate website the conservatives/anti-gay “straights” have whined in the comments every time SF Pride comes around that they (the “straights”) don’t have a straight pride day. It was pointed out probably hundreds of times to these anti-gay/conservative bigots that every day is “straight” pride day. That’s especially true in office settings where there’s no shortage of family pictures displayed showing the wife and the husband and their los niños/their children for everyone to see their “straight” family. They’re very in-your-face with their “straight” sexuality while they complain about GLBTQs being in-your-face with our sexuality. Fucking hypocrites!
But if you’re planning to come to the big corporate advertisement tourist-event known as SF Pride, or what I and others call Gay Shame/Gay Discreet Weekend, leave a friendly comment por favor. Or if you plan to stay home in this dismal economy, that might be a better idea. Chau.—el barrio rosa
UPDATE (el 10 de junio 2015): I read last night that a new US-national corporate chain is trying to quickly open at Castro and Market and they said, “We’re trying to open in time for Pride and will have a float in the parade.” Let me rewrite that to reflect reality: “We’re trying to open in time to exploit Gay Shame-Gay Discreet Day and we will have a moving corporate ad on wheels in this corporate parade with all the other corporate ads.”