There must be something in the water
UPDATE TO THIS ARTICLE:
El 4 de septiembre de 2014. After I wrote this article, the newest “gay sports bar” on Market Street was written about (see comments at the bottom of this article) because one of the owners of that bar just opened up a new restaurant. When they wrote about the “gay sports bar” in the article they removed the word “gay” and just called the bar a “sports bar.” Is that because that bar has sort of been taken over by “straights” or what? That reminded me of another instance of sanitising. Across the street from the obnoxious
gay sports bar on Market Street in San Francisco that I just mentioned, a new bar (one can’t have too much of the drug alcohol around here!) was announced as being a gay arcade and wine bar. But oddly when the paperwork for the gay arcade and wine bar’s approval went up on the glass windows at the bar’s location it said, “arcade and wine bar.” Again, the word “gay” was missing and this is happening in The Duboce Triangle area which neighbours The Castro, but they’re mistakenly calling it The Castro. The point is this is happening in San Francisco. Unbelievable. But I’m glad to know I’m not the only person now asking, “what is happening to this City of San Francisco?” In my opinion, it’s as if this city cannot go backwards fast enough and erase its radical/liberal (in the true sense of the word) past now that the conservative city government (the San Francisco Oligarchy) has moved this city to the right politically (related: The Left has lost San Francisco)). Also, when the owners of the gay sports bar were interviewed in another article about the new restaurant the article said that the owners “identify as gay.” WTF does that mean? As opposed to “the owners are gay.” Sigh. Someone sent me a kind e-mail and you can read more about this down in the comments at this article. Finally, the consulting chef (based in California) for this new restaurant said in the article announcing the opening of the restaurant that, “I hate to call it white people Mexican food but it is. And I think the Castro needs a place like that.” The Castro needs a “white people” restaurant? Why? The Castro is an ethnically-mixed barrio. Someone is talking about a “white people restaurant” in 2014 in San Francisco? In my opinion, the ethnic make-up of The Castro is about one-third Asian, one-third white and one-third mixed ethnicities. So why would such a neighbourhood need a “white people restaurant” regardless of what food they’re serving? Many people including myself are extremely offended by the consulting chef’s comment. Chau.—el barrio rosa
El 31 de agosto de 2014. Hola, at the rate things are going I suppose this is expected considering what the GLBTQ populace have become due to their goal of assimilationist politics and policies. In their desperate desire for heterosexual acceptance (ugh), the GLBTQ populace fervently launched itself into the arms of two of the most historically repressive and conservative “institutions” we have in the US:
And consequently, dissent is now despised, hated and detested.
Look at the gay personal sex ads in Queer newspapers and magazines. The ads read: “seeking straight-looking, straight-acting, discreet, down-load, no fats, no fems.” Such heteronormative and ugly language (ugly: “no fats, no fems” part) and other nonsense have become internalised within the fucked-up-in-the-head GLBTQ populace. As another Queer blogger I know has said: It is sad what my fellow Queers have become. I agree.
Some (if not most) of the GLBTQ corporatist organi$ations with their bloated executive salarie$—who serve as hack$ and $hill$ for the right-wing (and misnamed) “Democratic” Party in the US—and who eat the upper colon of the US Oligarchy – (D) are also responsible for this.
Speaking of fucked up, we are living in some weird times. After decades of the Gay Rights’ Movement—which completely died after the US Supreme Court ruling allowing some states in the US to begin issuing same-gender marriage licences—it now seems to be the thinking of a large group of mainly white gay guys in their 20s and 30s in the US that being gay is bad. Narrowing it down more, that’s especially the case between the ages of roughly 28 to 32 years old. What the fuck happened to them that they think being gay is bad? Is this part of the GLBTQ crowd that has been sucked in by the right-wing? (Gays and Lesbians: Sucked in by the Far Right. What Happened to the Wild, Free Gay Movement of the 1970s?
Gay Guys Pretending to be “Straight” WTF?
What I’m also talking about specifically are the closeted gay guys who are now pretending to be heterosexual and walking around San Francisco’s Castro of all places!…(you know the former Gay Mecca?) holding hands with a female, rubbing her butt and anything else she allows to be rubbed. Loco. As is the case (and the presumed requirement) with the typical “straight” couples we see in The Castro these days, the closeted gay guy is often 3-4 feet taller than the female. I talk about that height requirement in this article at that link.
For some time now, mi amigo and I have checked out some of these gay boy closet cases in The Castro strolling around holding hands with a female. The guy is often swishing his ass more than the female he’s with. Mi amigo and I both have extremely reliable Gaydar and we’ve concluded that the guys we’ve seen are definitely gay closet cases. Gay closet cases in The Castro? Is there something in the water? Now that’s fucking crazy/Loco. The female that the guy is with could be a lesbian. We’ve overheard some of their conversations at bus stops and on the sidewalk and most of the gay guys look and sound very effeminate when they speak, and are more feminine than the female they’re with and behaves/acts like a stereotypical gay guy. But, for some psychological reason, he’s pretending to be “straight” with her as he rubs all over her and wraps around her as they pretend to be a “straight” couple while standing around mostly Queer boys (who are not in the closet) on 18th Street near Castro in The Castro, for example.
Then there’s online. There’s a very similar crowd to this on the site I call ClosetList. It’s the same age group of mainly white guys on there. What is it with white guys in their 20s-30s these days? Nearly every guy on ClosetList describes himself as:
Some gay guys also say in their gay sex personal ad:
“not into the scene”
Queer Boys turning into Macho Men (Ugh)
Then there’s the obnoxious jock fad. These mostly white young gay guys who don’t call themselves gay (gay shame?) with their polished/gym-toned bodies and no social skills. If only they would “polish” the interior as much as they’ve “polished” their exteriors. Mi amigo has contacted some of these “jocks” and he said they have absolutely no social skills when he’s tried to talk with them. They can’t talk—one gets “dead air” with them—and their personal sex ads read shallow and superficial and they’re only concerned about the physical appearance. Nothing about personality.
So again, none of these gay guys use the word “gay” in their gay personal sex ads to describe themselves. I think they are ashamed to call themselves gay even though they are looking to get their dick sucked or to suck dick or to fuck a guy or get fucked by a guy. That’s what is known as gay sex, muchachos. Some of these guys call themselves “bi” and I suspect that’s because “bi” sounds more masculine to them than the word “gay.” Mi amigo and I think they most assuredly have gay shame.
So after decades of the Gay Rights’ Movement, how can people possibly still be clinging on to gay shame? Mi amigo says that from his experience with many “bi” guys, most “bi” guys are not bi and have no interest in females. They just say they’re “bi” because, again, they think that sounds more masculine and heteronormative than saying they are gay, or in other words: It’s bad to be gay is their thinking. That’s called Gay Shame.
As I said earlier, these guys are in their 20s and 30s mainly, and I’ve noticed that most of them specifically are between 28 and 32 years old. That means they were conceived between 1982 and 1986. What the fuck happened during those years or since then that would cause these guys to be so fucked up mentally regarding their gay sexuality (that they’re trying to deny it)? When did their anti-gay brainwashing occur and by whom? The US corporate media possibly?
The odd thing about this is that what I’m writing about here (closet cases in general) is happening at the same time that same-gender marriage is legal in some places and being made legal in other places in the US. Did the now-dead Gay Rights’ Movement have no effect on these guys who are today between 28 and 32 years old? Or are these guys embarrassed and ashamed by the decades-long Gay Rights’ Movement of the past?
Yes, I know I’ve talked about this before and I’m bringing this up again because mi amigo and I were in San Francisco’s Castro this past Friday night and we noticed some of this same stuff going on again. Our almost-unfailing, very reliable Gaydar told us that some of the muchachos we were seeing and pretending to be “straight” and holding a female were really gay guys. And we’re seeing more of this. He and I used to never see closeted gay guys in The Castro. If one were in The Castro, one was proudly out of the closet and not ashamed of being gay and not pretending to heterosexual and not snuggling up to a female. But today: This is what we’re seeing and it’s Loco.
A psychologist might say: “yes, they are likely gay and they’re in the closet. They came to the Castro for the guy to covertly check out guys without the female knowing that’s what he’s doing, although she may have some suspicions, unless she’s completely in denial. The female he’s holding on to is just his “cover” or “security blanket” and just along for the ride, so to speak, but she doesn’t likely know that.
Well regardless, mi amigo and I find it sad that many gay guy spend so much of their life pretending to be somebody they are not. A fraud, in other words. Although this is nothing new. I know that many “straight” guys live in the closet married to a female and they have children and then one day: “Honey, I’m gay and I’ve been gay all my life. It’s time for a divorce and for me to stop living a lie. We can split everything up.”
But after decades of the Gay Rights’ Movement, many people still can’t come out of the closet and are ashamed of their gay sexuality. That’s pathetic really. Some gay people go throughout their entire life living a lie, being a fraud and pretending to be someone they’re not because they refuse to stop living a lie and come out of that fucking closet. And we seem to be getting more of that type in The Castro these days as it become more “straight.”
Some conservatives—even some gay conservatives—round here who have said in the past that there’s no longer any need for gay meccas have said, “gay people can live anywhere now.” That’s mostly true as long as gay people live in the closet, be heteronormative and pretend to be “straight.” Their statement is wishful thinking. GLBTQ people cannot live anywhere freely and openly as Queer people, and that’s the part the conservatives omit.
At this point in time, one might have thought that society had moved past this thinking that gay is bad. Even if society had moved past that thinking (which it hasn’t), clearly many GLBTQ closet cases haven’t moved past that thinking from what I and others are seeing around San Francisco’s Castro. Chau.—el barrio rosa