Hola, occasionally someone will come to pink barrio by searching: “best bar in castro for closeted gays.”
Don’t let me get started on this. There’s so much that could be said about that, such as, why is anyone in the closet in San Francisco to begin with? Has the person searching that not heard that this city was for decades The Gay Mecca where GLBTQs were “out and proud?” I know that was then and now we’re going back into the Dark Ages with the assistance of conservative Queers who enjoy eating “straight” ass in many Queer’s desperate attempt to be accepted by the “straights.” (That was never one of my priorities and still isn’t!) As I’ve written before, many Queers are going back into that moldy closet. Living a lie, not being honest with oneself and being a fucking fraud to oneself and to others is very unhealthy and disingenuous, but that doesn’t seem to bother most people.
We really are going backwards in many ways despite things that are called “smart” this and “smart” that. Stupid, dumbed-down and dumb-ass are “in” especially in shallow and superficial US Pop Culture here in the US of Hypocrisy.
I know of one bar in San Francisco’s Castro which I’m not about to promote that is probably the closest to being a bar full of fucked-up-in-the-head closet cases. I’ve read comments about that bar and the “back in the closet” type glances one sees guys giving each other in this bar when cruising or afraid of being seen cruising another chico in a gay bar of all places. I have zero patience for closet cases because they are part of the heteronormative problem and they are living a lie. I can’t stand dishonesty. And the site I call ClosetList is full of fucking closet cases. Most of them don’t call themselves closet cases, although some admit they’re “closeted” even in major cities where no one gives a fuck what they do sexually or with whom. Instead, these closet cases use code words such as “DL” (meaning Down Low) and “Discreet” but it means the same thing. It means they’re in the closet. They are clearly ashamed of being gay and/or are cheating on someone. Many guys call themselves “bi” but they have no interest in females. They think that “bi” sounds more macho, more “jock,” as they’re ashamed of being gay and being called gay with their conservative heteronormative thinking. We certainly do have a lot of fucked up (sexually) people out there. And these closet cases are in major cities but they act like they’re in some small town or hamlet somewhere with prying eyes next door. Loco./Crazy. It’s really pathetic what my fellow Queers have become. Chau.—el barrio rosa