“Best bar in Castro for Closeted Gays”

Hola, occasionally someone will come to pink barrio by searching: “best bar in castro for closeted gays.”

Don’t let me get started on this. There’s so much that could be said about that, such as, why is anyone in the closet in San Francisco to begin with? Has the person searching that not heard that this city was for decades The Gay Mecca where GLBTQs were “out and proud?” I know that was then and now we’re going back into the Dark Ages with the assistance of conservative Queers who enjoy eating “straight” ass in many Queer’s desperate attempt to be accepted by the “straights.” (That was never one of my priorities and still isn’t!) As I’ve written before, many Queers are going back into that moldy closet. Living a lie, not being honest with oneself and being a fucking fraud to oneself and to others is very unhealthy and disingenuous, but that doesn’t seem to bother most people.

We really are going backwards in many ways despite things that are called “smart” this and “smart” that. Stupid, dumbed-down and dumb-ass are “in” especially in shallow and superficial US Pop Culture here in the US of Hypocrisy.

I know of one bar in San Francisco’s Castro which I’m not about to promote that is probably the closest to being a bar full of fucked-up-in-the-head closet cases. I’ve read comments about that bar and the “back in the closet” type glances one sees guys giving each other in this bar when cruising or afraid of being seen cruising another chico in a gay bar of all places. I have zero patience for closet cases because they are part of the heteronormative problem and they are living a lie. I can’t stand dishonesty. And the site I call ClosetList is full of fucking closet cases. Most of them don’t call themselves closet cases, although some admit they’re “closeted” even in major cities where no one gives a fuck what they do sexually or with whom. Instead, these closet cases use code words such as “DL” (meaning Down Low) and “Discreet” but it means the same thing. It means they’re in the closet. They are clearly ashamed of being gay and/or are cheating on someone. Many guys call themselves “bi” but they have no interest in females. They think that “bi” sounds more macho, more “jock,” as they’re ashamed of being gay and being called gay with their conservative heteronormative thinking. We certainly do have a lot of fucked up (sexually) people out there. And these closet cases are in major cities but they act like they’re in some small town or hamlet somewhere with prying eyes next door. Loco./Crazy. It’s really pathetic what my fellow Queers have become. Chau.—el barrio rosa

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The “Discreet” Gay Guys in New York City

Change Gay Pride to Gay Discreet

The “Discreet” Gay Guys

What’s the problem with GLBTQ “assimilation?”

The Sanitising of San Francisco’s Castro Has Been Completed

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5 comments on ““Best bar in Castro for Closeted Gays”

  1. Dan

    Fucking right on !! I have no patience for closet cases either.

    I live in the East Bay and I was over in SF a couple weeks ago. I don’t think it’s possible for them to ruin SF any faster than they are. It’s incredible what they’ve done over there. The uniqueness and what made SF special is gone. SF looks like any other city now. Speaking of closet cases, I’ve read that the conservatives are in full control of SF.

  2. D8

    Agree. Thanks for telling it like it is…. You’ve got to because nobody else is going to.

  3. Alejandro

    Hooooooola, I’ve been to that bar I think you’re talking about. A guy from my office [he’s gay] wanted to go there and he invited me to go along. He’s not in the closet. He sounds like you. We were sitting there having a beer and he asked me if I’d noticed all these weird and suspicious looks that guys were giving each other while cruising each other. I had noticed. I said if we didn’t know any better we’d think we were back in the 1950s. That’s how gay guys acted back then. The bar attracts closet case buffed guys and overweight guys, two extremes.

    1. rosa_barrio Post author

      Hola Alejandro, interesting to read. They’re not called overweight guys, mi amor. They’re called “bears.” You know that! Any muchacho who is overweight is now called a “bear.” Por favor. It justifies being overweight. It’s makes being overweight perfectly okay. No need to try to lose weight, in fact, quite the contrary, eat more greasy burgers and fries in the burgers/fries and coffee-saturated Castro and become a bigger bear. “Bear” sanitises being overweight. Some people would say it’s being political correct. The ironic part about this is that these “bears”—at least some of them from my experience are conservatives—are the strongest opponents of political correctness, yet it’s fine when it applies to them and they use it to describe themselves as a, “I’m a bear.” More hypocrisy in the US of Hypocrisy. Gracias for your comment. Chau.

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      1. Alejandro

        Hoooooola, but of course they’re called bears. What was I thinking?! My mistake. LOL.

        I knew they were called “bears.” I choose to call them what they are: overweight. By the way, ANOTHER coffee joint is opening in the Castro. Just what we need!

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